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Message: <blockquote data-quote="LuckiLee" data-source="post: 1765823" data-attributes="member: 37759">Tell her that^^^. If you haven't already?People can argue and still love each other.I can't imagine having one of our family members move in with us. J would try to hide PTSD until he exploded. It would be hell. For all of us.Our house. J's chair. Is his safe place.  And it isn't even ALWAYS safe for him. He would have so much more added stress of "keeping everyone alive". J and I have a system. (Sorta. Kinda. Changes daily. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😆" title="Grinning squinting face    :laughing:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f606.png" data-shortname=":laughing:" /><img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😂" title="Face with tears of joy    :joy:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f602.png" data-shortname=":joy:" /><img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="🤣" title="Rolling on the floor laughing    :rofl:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f923.png" data-shortname=":rofl:" />) If it gets disrupted? It can get very ugly. PTSD relationships are anything but "normal". So if J can't be himself? If he has to suppress his symptoms? In his own home? In his safe place? During anniversary season?  Yeah. It would get ugly. (Depression, rage then SI).Like today. He's sleeping in his chair and will probably be there all day. Why? Because J worked yesterday morning morning and we went out with friends in the evening. It was a looong day and J was on high alert. (Tall buildings=snipers , lots of people=terrorists, backpacks=bombs) System overload!!  He couldn't/wouldn't sleep all day in his chair if someone else was here.If we had to have someone move in with us? I have no idea how we could manage it. We could do it for a short time. A few weeks max. But after that they would get a crash course on PTSD. That's fo sho! He shouldn't have to hide his symptoms, our reality in his own home. Just to make a visitor "feel more at home". It should be the other way around. Right? Right.Sis was a jerk. And hubby should talk with her. I would most definitely have the talk if it was one of our family members. Or have all the adults have a conversation. Everyone is stressed. There's bound to be disagreements and arguing. At least around there would be.  Especially if we didn't feel at home in our own home anymore.I guess I'm saying don't give up on sis. But tell her how mad and let down you are. If they are going to be living with you for the foreseeable future? You should have more communication. Not less. Ok. I'll stop now.Thanks for sharing.P.S. I think it's funny, Friday loved your post and I thought it was sad.  <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😆" title="Grinning squinting face    :laughing:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f606.png" data-shortname=":laughing:" /></blockquote>

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