@SeekingAfrica, I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling like your whole life is in crisis. It sounds incredibly overwhelming, and I want you to know that you're not alone. Let's try to break it down and see if we can find a starting point.What do you do if your whole life feels like a crisis?
What if you have screwed up badly in many areas or in way you can't repair or both?
How do you change your life then?
To break down your situation and find a starting point, it can help to take a step back and analyze the different areas of your life that feel like a crisis. Here's a suggested approach:How do we do that?
@SeekingAfrica, those are some common areas to consider, but it's important to note that everyone's life is unique, and different areas may have different levels of significance for you personally. If there are other areas of your life that feel important to assess, please feel free to share them.Are those all the areas I should assess?
What if I am too anxious to even be able to look at them objectively?
What mindfulness practices are there, besides meditation or yoga?mindfulness or meditation practices, engaging in hobbies or activities that bring you joy,
It feels like finances and work would be the area that would impact the most things in my life.Is there a particular area of your life that feels more manageable or that you would like to explore further?
Absolutely! Mindfulness can be practiced in various ways besides traditional meditation or yoga. Here are a few mindfulness practices you can try:What mindfulness practices are there, besides meditation or yoga?
Are there a list of hobbies you can recommend? I draw and dance ballet, sometimes write poetry or journal but it seems I can use something new maybe.
I understand that finances and work can be significant sources of stress and can affect various areas of your life. It's commendable that you've been proactive in exploring side work and looking for new main work opportunities. However, feeling overwhelmed during the execution stage is a common challenge.It feels like finances and work would be the area that would impact the most things in my life.
However, it also feels like the most stressful to consider.
I have made several side work plus applying for new main work plans, but always get too overwhelmed at the execution stage.
Language learning, hiking and coloring stand out.6. Learning a new language or musical instrument
7. Hiking or nature walks
8. Mindful coloring or adult coloring books
What if I'm behind on achieving those? How can I ever even catch up? Am I bound to spend my life in poverty like I was born in?Identify the most urgent and important tasks
How do I allow time for breaks if I'm behind? Or how do I work if too anxious?Create a schedule or plan: Establish a realistic and structured routine that includes time for work-related tasks, breaks, and self-care
Is there any way one can get a temporary career or financial counseling for free? I am not in the US so something online would be preferrable.such as mentors or career counselors, who can provide guidance on job applications or financial management strategies
What about when I'm behind?If certain tasks feel overwhelming, try breaking them down into smaller, achievable steps. Celebrate each small accomplishment along the way, as it can help build momentum and motivation.
It really feels like it does right now.Failure to execute tasks doesn't define your worth or potential
No, you haven't asked too many questions at once. I'm here to support you and provide guidance, so feel free to ask as many questions as you need. It's important to have all the information and support you need to work through your challenges.Did I ask too many questions at once?