ninja
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I am in my late twenties. I’ve been in 3 intimate/romantic relationships; however, two were long-distance (and also when I was a teenager) and the third was shitty and didn’t last long. The third one was 5 years ago.
I haven’t been interested in relationships and yet, I also would like to have a family. I’m trying to figure out how to resolve this internal conflict. I’ve gone on dates. I’ve spent some time on apps, but I keep finding that after a few days of back and forth I forget to respond.
I’ve tried being patient - trusting that my interest in relationships will develop as I heal and learn that a) I’m not a horrible person that people should stay away from and b) connection can be exhausting and scary yes, but it’s also a good thing (or something along those lines). However, that is taking forever and I’m now starting to wonder whether it’s worth waiting (30s are looming) - maybe I need to take a more active approach. Rip the bandaid off and just do it. I’m not sure.
(I’ve considered whether I might be asexual, and I don’t actually think I am …. though I do think my sexuality has been turned off for a while.)
Anybody else have this issue? Did you get through/past it?
What draws you to seek out intimate/romantic relationships? Have you always wanted to be in a relationship? Did the desire “turn on” at some point?
Though these questions are somewhat targeted, I’m interested in hearing anything you’re willing to share in this general topic area.
I haven’t been interested in relationships and yet, I also would like to have a family. I’m trying to figure out how to resolve this internal conflict. I’ve gone on dates. I’ve spent some time on apps, but I keep finding that after a few days of back and forth I forget to respond.
I’ve tried being patient - trusting that my interest in relationships will develop as I heal and learn that a) I’m not a horrible person that people should stay away from and b) connection can be exhausting and scary yes, but it’s also a good thing (or something along those lines). However, that is taking forever and I’m now starting to wonder whether it’s worth waiting (30s are looming) - maybe I need to take a more active approach. Rip the bandaid off and just do it. I’m not sure.
(I’ve considered whether I might be asexual, and I don’t actually think I am …. though I do think my sexuality has been turned off for a while.)
Anybody else have this issue? Did you get through/past it?
What draws you to seek out intimate/romantic relationships? Have you always wanted to be in a relationship? Did the desire “turn on” at some point?
Though these questions are somewhat targeted, I’m interested in hearing anything you’re willing to share in this general topic area.