When words and actions don't match

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PBJ0309

All our lives we're taught that actions speak louder than words. But does this still apply in the case of PTSD? For example, how do you square someone telling you they love you so much only to disappear for weeks on end? Or when they say they love you but then take their misplaced anger out on you? Should you still believe what their actions show over what they say, or make an exception and take their words at face value?
 

anthony

Founder
PTSD is a tough call, being a mental illness, thus words and actions will not match due to mental illness. One or the other will be right, and that is the tough choice supporters must make.

As a sufferer, my words and actions did not match, but it was me who left two marriages and some relationships in-between, as what I said was really to make someone else feel better, but then I went and did things contrary to my words. That was on me. At the time I would not admit that to myself... hindsight is different.

You know you best. You know your situation best. You know your partner enough to know whether mental illness is the winner or not. A person has to own their shit and change. People really do, and can, change IF they want to. We make excuses for lots of things in our lives... and everyone has a line in which they simply refuse to pass and call something quits. We make those choices for ourselves too, and thus must accept the consequences of such choices.

Nobody can tell you which is better. Whilst we may be told actions speak louder than words, in some cases, words speak louder than actions, and even a combination. We are told lots of shit growing up to make excuses, make ourselves feel better, to empart our belief systems upon our children or others. At the end of the day, you make your choices based on the information you have in front of you.
 
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