HëllaBubz
MyPTSD Pro
So my supporter is the father of my child - and as per the famous settings of social media, we're going to whack a "it's complicated" of the relationship part.
About him:
- gives/keeps going until he drops
- suppresses until he explodes
- disassociates
- trauma history
- ''switches off"
- disturbed sleep patterns
- hallmarks of depression
- OCD tendancies
- reluctance to engage in activities
- concerning spending with CC (he's a stickler usually)
- no physical activity
- his version of relaxation is to watch Netflix until he falls asleep, comes to bed at 2 am, sleeps like shit then complains he can't sleep.:mad:
I'm trying to explore self care for him, and after multiple attempts of push, pull, yell, coerce, cheer squad, threats, support, therapy and other things, I've discovered that things seem to work best if *I* take the lead, go do something without consulting him and then he feels left out and suddenly appears and wants to come.:rolleyes::roflmao:
He's recently connected with a psychologist and now see's her fortnightly which I'm quietly cheering about.:giggle:
I have other art activities that he and I want to do together - just need to save for supplies.:blackeye:
Now mind you, this was me 5 years ago, it's now that our positions are reversed.
I've recovered enough that I work 8 to 5 for 5 days a week, plus I'm a mother as wrll - any time after that is me time.
I'm pretty sure he's burnt out from caring for me, we all know what a soul sucker ptsd can be.
What are things/approaches you or your supporter has used for self care?
Any tips/sharing?
I'll take anything and everything! :p:woot:
About him:
- gives/keeps going until he drops
- suppresses until he explodes
- disassociates
- trauma history
- ''switches off"
- disturbed sleep patterns
- hallmarks of depression
- OCD tendancies
- reluctance to engage in activities
- concerning spending with CC (he's a stickler usually)
- no physical activity
- his version of relaxation is to watch Netflix until he falls asleep, comes to bed at 2 am, sleeps like shit then complains he can't sleep.:mad:
I'm trying to explore self care for him, and after multiple attempts of push, pull, yell, coerce, cheer squad, threats, support, therapy and other things, I've discovered that things seem to work best if *I* take the lead, go do something without consulting him and then he feels left out and suddenly appears and wants to come.:rolleyes::roflmao:
He's recently connected with a psychologist and now see's her fortnightly which I'm quietly cheering about.:giggle:
I have other art activities that he and I want to do together - just need to save for supplies.:blackeye:
Now mind you, this was me 5 years ago, it's now that our positions are reversed.
I've recovered enough that I work 8 to 5 for 5 days a week, plus I'm a mother as wrll - any time after that is me time.
I'm pretty sure he's burnt out from caring for me, we all know what a soul sucker ptsd can be.
What are things/approaches you or your supporter has used for self care?
Any tips/sharing?
I'll take anything and everything! :p:woot: