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Why are you here?

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joeylittle

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Recently, some members were discovered to be using the forum for the wrong reasons - grooming and seducing potential online fantasy-sex partners. This was being carried out over PM. Action has been taken, and that is the end of that.

I'd like to remind the members here of some things.

One: Read this link: Members Take Note - Everyone Is Not Who You May Think. Remember it, before you decide to share your private contact information with anyone here. Connection can be carried out on the main boards. There is no reason to cloister yourself away with someone that you've only just met, here. Stay out in the open, and resist the urge to 'hide out' in the PM system simply because it seems more private. Get to know members on the main boards. Don't make the mistake of believing that chatting and PM-ing with someone equates to knowing them.

Two: Remember why you are here. Did you come here to get support and connection as you work on yourself? Or did you come here to have an environment where you could reinforce your own dysfunction? MyPTSD can be a great place to experience both peer support, and social connection - but spending most of your time in the chat room and in PM might indicate that you are overly attached to the social aspects of the site, and possibly using them to avoid pushing yourself to do more work on your recovery.

Commiseration has it's place, but too often, it can become the main focus of someone's time here. And, it should go without saying - this is not a dating site.

Three: No, PMs are not fully private. Whenever something like this comes up, that fact becomes the biggest thing that people take away.

The only people that can access your PMs are the Admins: myself, @anthony, and @Nicolette. None of us have any interest in reading your PMs. We look at them when something has been reported, or when interpersonal issues spill out onto the forum. None of us wants to know your private business: we would prefer you keep it private. We'd also prefer that you apply a good amount of internet 'stranger-danger' awareness, and not trust someone just because they appear to have things in common with you, or you seem to 'hit it off' right away.

Paranoia is a symptom - try not to be paranoid about any of this. Just be smart.

If you become concerned about someone's behavior in PM or in chat - please, report it. Your confidentiality will be respected, and we can help.

If you have any questions about any of the above, ask them via help-ticket.

Thanks for reading.
 
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