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Message: <blockquote data-quote="ladee" data-source="post: 1694025" data-attributes="member: 31518">This is going to sound cold. The only reason I went to the old man's funeral was to make sure he was dead and couldn't hurt anyone else. I felt nothing. Relief maybe, but that was it. I didn't go to my sisters funeral because I was at the age of not caring what others thought or said. I wasn't willing to be a hypocrite with that one.My son died recently and he hurt a lot of people during the last 20 years of his life. Tho as his mom I do understand why it will never make it ok. Never. I don't 'heroize' him. He had a lot of good qualities, but they all got negated in the last years of his life. Some of my friends do not want to hear of the things he said and did. That's ok. It doesn't take it away just because he died. But I have to talk about the hurt. If nowhere else but here. This is a very personal choice for you. I think people go to funerals for different reasons. If it would help you get some semblance of yourself back, then go. If it has no meaning to you, then do what is right for you. There were a lot of 'dry eyes' at the old man's funeral. Have no idea why they were all there honestly. Guess they all had their own reasons. Take care of yourself. Don't put yourself thru something that isn't going to help you.</blockquote>