Gymfanatic
New Here
Hi there,
I was on this site around 2 and a half years ago as I was in love with a guy with ptsd who was going through a rough time and pushed me away. He ended up hurting me by getting into a relationship with someone else and failing to tell me.
Throughout the last two years he’s had another relationship, in that relationship when he was suffering I would get a phone call for a cry for help. Not frequently but he asked if I was around etc.
When he split up with his gf he contacted me to tell me he was single and that here was his number should I want to chat. I didn’t talk to him for three months as I didn’t want to fall back into that.
We bumped into each other last July and from July to December it was a few booty calls here and there. I had an abortion which nearly killed our entire friendship but weirdly it brought us closer together. Since February this year we’ve been in an intense friendship. I see him most days, we work out together, swap books, I’m helping him start a business and we also have sex and are intimate.
He stresses a lot that he can’t be in a relationship and it’s not good for him. I know this and I know when he’s in one he feels trapped and gets confused and hates hurting his gf when he’s not well and needs to disappear. He always like to remind me that we’re not boyfriend and girlfriend - yet he’s practically in a relationship with me.
He asked me to go into business with him as a partnership but as soon as he did this I started to freak out. I know he will never be with me yet I love him so much, he’s my best friend and I fancy the pants off him. Going into business with him would tie me to him for a very long time, I told him I don’t think it’s wise.
He said he thinks we can be friends (minus the sex and kissing) but I’m not sure I can and I don’t think he can. I can’t bear the thought that he’s with another woman and I’m not sure I can switch that off.
We called quits today but he’s messaged me since saying he’s sorry he’s upset me and that he will wait for me to message.
I’m unsure of what to do? Has anyone got any friendly advice?
I was on this site around 2 and a half years ago as I was in love with a guy with ptsd who was going through a rough time and pushed me away. He ended up hurting me by getting into a relationship with someone else and failing to tell me.
Throughout the last two years he’s had another relationship, in that relationship when he was suffering I would get a phone call for a cry for help. Not frequently but he asked if I was around etc.
When he split up with his gf he contacted me to tell me he was single and that here was his number should I want to chat. I didn’t talk to him for three months as I didn’t want to fall back into that.
We bumped into each other last July and from July to December it was a few booty calls here and there. I had an abortion which nearly killed our entire friendship but weirdly it brought us closer together. Since February this year we’ve been in an intense friendship. I see him most days, we work out together, swap books, I’m helping him start a business and we also have sex and are intimate.
He stresses a lot that he can’t be in a relationship and it’s not good for him. I know this and I know when he’s in one he feels trapped and gets confused and hates hurting his gf when he’s not well and needs to disappear. He always like to remind me that we’re not boyfriend and girlfriend - yet he’s practically in a relationship with me.
He asked me to go into business with him as a partnership but as soon as he did this I started to freak out. I know he will never be with me yet I love him so much, he’s my best friend and I fancy the pants off him. Going into business with him would tie me to him for a very long time, I told him I don’t think it’s wise.
He said he thinks we can be friends (minus the sex and kissing) but I’m not sure I can and I don’t think he can. I can’t bear the thought that he’s with another woman and I’m not sure I can switch that off.
We called quits today but he’s messaged me since saying he’s sorry he’s upset me and that he will wait for me to message.
I’m unsure of what to do? Has anyone got any friendly advice?