I'm Jim. A Nam vet, was a Corpsman with the Marines. Got married a year after Nam.....and for all the years from '67' to '98' I thought I was the odd-ball outside of "those normal people". I'm amazed my wife has stuck it out. I'm getting help from the VA, but what I discovered less than a year ago is that there are more helping programs in the VA than they volunteer to tell you. I kept asking and asking until I finally hit on the right question; "Is there a PTSD group I can attend?" It was then from the group members that I learned that there was also a nine week live-in course at the Tomah VA Hospital here in Wisconsin. What a difference in my marriage that made! I actually communicate with my wife now, rather than get angry and go isolate myself. I'm a long way from being "cured" and I know I'll never be fully okay, but I'm a better husband than before and now I can work on the other parts of PTSD. One step at a time. My point is tell your caregiver what you think you need, ask questions and then ask again. Meds and counciling help but there are other avenues for help also.