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anthony
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Saying something isn't allowing PTSD to control you Piglet... probably the opposite as you just stated, that not saying something is because your afraid of what PTSD may do... that means PTSD is winning. If you need to say something, say it, don't let people walk over you if thats not you really being you. Discussion is fine, voicing your opinion is fine, but if you get distressed and angry and begin taking that out on people within that discussion, then that could be traits of PTSD coming through, which is where you need to be mindful.
An example of this exact thing with myself, is that I used to not say anything, exactly as you are, but then realised if I didn't, the same thing as what your experiencing now, people walk over you, do things and so forth with no regard for you. So, I used to say something then walk away, so it was noted. If I didn't walk away, which I didn't a few times, I ended up trying to get over people to kill someone who upset me. That was PTSD coming through... so voicing my opinion, listening to the other side of it, then walking away with no response worked some of the time atleast, compared to just being walked over.
Your allowing PTSD to win though if you say nothing in fear of it controlling the situation. Speak up, but know your limits, look for signs that you getting upset beyond reproach, then either use relaxation to calm you down before proceeding, or say you bit and walk away to calm down, so nothing happens that you may regreat later.
An example of this exact thing with myself, is that I used to not say anything, exactly as you are, but then realised if I didn't, the same thing as what your experiencing now, people walk over you, do things and so forth with no regard for you. So, I used to say something then walk away, so it was noted. If I didn't walk away, which I didn't a few times, I ended up trying to get over people to kill someone who upset me. That was PTSD coming through... so voicing my opinion, listening to the other side of it, then walking away with no response worked some of the time atleast, compared to just being walked over.
Your allowing PTSD to win though if you say nothing in fear of it controlling the situation. Speak up, but know your limits, look for signs that you getting upset beyond reproach, then either use relaxation to calm you down before proceeding, or say you bit and walk away to calm down, so nothing happens that you may regreat later.