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Thank you. What you said makes a lot of sense to me and I could see some of that in her. I just wish she was able to articulate the feelings as well as you are because that would make things so much easier. I'm glad you are still getting communication from him, but I can see how that can also...

I don't know if this helps at all, but you know my situation a bit as well and with her and the way she's acting I have a lot of the same feelings of a betrayal of trust. I try to tell myself that this "person" isn't the same one that I loved and poured my heart and soul into and that she is...

I agree the crying does help with the pain, what it doesn't help with is the confusion. I just wish she would communicte even just a little bit. I've told her if this is what you truly want then I understand but I'm also afraid that she is doing it for other reasons. In the past she has said I...

There has definitely been a lot of tears shed these past few days, Unfortunately it doesn't seem to be helping. When you mention the person you loved and your best friend feels like they died, that is exactly how I feel. Its a grief that I'd imagine feels much like that of widower. I was just...

We did, and I accept a lot of the responsibility for her feeling unheard and unloved. She was misdiagnosed with BPD many years ago and I tried researching that and to understand what I could but while some of it seemed spot on other bits of it didn't seem to relate at all which left me more...

Thank you. I'll write more later. It's just too hard right now.

Logically that makes sense but it doesn't make it any easier unfortunately. I try to think logically about it all, but I just can't stop thinking about the last 11 years and how all of that is just gone. All I can seem to do is just sit here between bouts of shock that it's actually ending and...

So I just decided to check randomly the country records office and saw where apparently she filed for divorce on the 17th of this month, still havent received any paperwork or anything on my end. I guess that is the end of it then. I can't believe I'm at this point with the woman I love so...

TikTok has done more harm than good to the entire world in general IMO. I had researched a lot on the Narcistic traits with CPTSD because of being married to an NPD in the past and I was seeing a lot of the same issues come up with the recent setbacks and called her a narcissist out of anger and...

Its crazy how similar all of the supporter situations are! Have you seen this video by chance?

The narccistic traits really intrigue me. My wife has a narcissttic father and 2 very narcisstics brothers and a sister and hates it. She has worried her whole life that she is like them but she isnt even close. I myself was in a relationship with a a woman with a sever case of NPD who seemed to...

I need to save this and read it every day. Thank You

That's a rough situation. It does seem that the suffer that is in a bad place in the relationship tends to lash out to the one that is closest to them and hurt them while trating everybody else fairly decently. I'd like to think that this happens because deep down they know that person is "safe"...

IME I have seen this first hand(the Emotional side) in a way that served as a distraction for my spouse and as a way to try focus on "help" the other person becasue they were in a bad place. Once I brought it to her and showed her she realized what she was doing, however this was when she was in...

I f*&$%^#g HATE this! That is all. That's the post