Recent content by Al_Lurker

It's been just short of a year since I broke up with my sufferer. I want to take a moment to thank all of you that have helped me through a tough year, especially @Junebug . without all of you I would not be the person I am today. Thank you and I wish each of you all the luck and love on your...

I'm not a sufferer but if it was me I'd try to face that biggest fear... Find the way to trust yourself and forgive yourself first. I wish you the best on the journey.

I'm a former supporter so feel free to disregard... ....but I think a sufferer needs to feel that it will actually be of benefit. Having been misdiagnosed, not given the proper therapy or even having the wrong therapist can lead to a feeling of resignation that keeps them from wanting to keep...

Not an uncommon thing, any part of a car that isn't 'handled' often will rust up in most places. Nothing much to be done but what your dad did, or soak it in penetrating oil and wait. ;)

Congratulations on giving it a good effort! Most don't even try these days, just call AAA or someone else. Dads, and granddads, and men in general do need to feel needed.... but you should feel good too since you'll have a better idea how to go about it if it happens again. Or if Dad is too far...

@Gingerly you have to take care of yourself before you can be able to take care of someone else. The decision is yours of course but you shouldn't feel bad about protecting yourself if that's what it takes for you to be healthy mentally or physically.

Time does not heal all wounds, without treatment for both of you this one will only fester and get worse. I failed miserably at the part of the relationship where I triggered her the first time so I won't offer advice as to how to proceed but her trusting you, and herself, have to be addressed...

You should also know that a "test for everything" may not include a test for the herpes simplex virus. It's commonly known as "cold sores" though either type 1 or type 2 can occur orally or genitally. The stigma associated with having either type genitally can be overwhelming for some, mostly...

All too well. She is no longer my partner, I'm now a threat only and no longer safety, so let's not turn this thread Into something about me. It's about understanding.... Understanding from both sides and how to overcome what can appear to some to be insurmountable obstacles to healing (or...

Exactly. The analogy I like is that a man can never truly understand the experience of giving birth to a child. That does not prevent us from being good parents together or loving that child though. It takes an effort on both parties to accomplish good communication and mutual support in either...

That's a hard question for me to answer because as a general rule I don't feel unsafe. I'm a large, hairy male person and as a general rule people avoid me. I've been told I am 'intimidating' though people that know me say I'm as intimidating as a teddy bear. I've also been the person that...

@Survivor2Thriver Please help me understand how to build that harbor for I can't understand number 5 as I've never sailed that course. Though I wish to shelter even the safest harbor requires a pilot. That's what I'd love to tell my sufferer if she thought I was part of the happiness for which...

An excellent post. I hope that you continue to progress towards 6b. That is the one I think we all struggle with sufferer or supporter.

There's a thread here about digestive problems, amazing how many with PTSD are diagnosed with IBS or suffer from problems.... You may want to try and get him to watch some of Kelly Mcgonigal's video on stress. Just Google her name. It was very enlightening for me to hear what her research has to...

I understand "no one to think how I might be doing". That is a weight that I too bear these days. I have not yet learned how to put that dream away though....