Recent content by AlbusLupa

Your experience and help has made my journey dealing with PTSD a lot easier. I know things didn't end well for me, and I don't have so much of the positive memories that you guys do (the highs were short and far between with the lows and everyday being rough), but you've been a great help at...

What you have described sounds perfectly normal, or at least is normal to what I experienced with my ex. Every day was like walking a tightrope over a tigercage, afraid I'd say something that would upset her. It could be something extremely small, I was looking at flats and saw one which had a...

I just wanted to say a sincere thank you to everybody on the forum, for your help in helping me to understand PTSD. More than that though, I want to thank you on behalf of the sufferers that you help, because I doubt they say it themselves, or see how much of yourselves you give to help them...

From everything you've said, here and around the forums, I think you've done everything you could to help her. I think that could be why she wants to keep you around, even if she thinks for a moment that you're responsible, she's got to know or feel deep down you've done everything you could to...

My girlfriend (possibly ex, seeing how the next few days go) has little sex drive, and the physicality comes and goes but as far as I can tell wasn't sexually assaulted as a kid, when she was physically abused resulting in the complex PTSD. Now, since then, I know that she's been abused by her...

Thank you all for the advice. I suppose it didn't help that I'd had a rough day at work, and was getting a bad headache when she messaged me. I ended up talking to her about all the issues I was feeling were there. We talked it through and realised we both sometimes need to work on our...

I'll be honest, I'm kind of at a stage where I hate myself for even considering it, but I'm kind of at breaking point my my girlfriend. We're only three months in, but I'm clinging to a potential false hope that things will get easier with time. She's in therapy, she's on medication every few...

I'm happy for you. Glad somebody has some good news from today :D Hope all goes well when he calls later.

My girlfriend and I were talking last night, and she mentioned something which I think sums up the reason why we're the ones who suffer the brunt of the isolation. We were discussing that she's not been to yoga or running in a while, and she said it was my "fault" (which, yeah, great to hear, I...

One other thing I feel is important to add, which it's taken me a long time to learn - it's not personal. It is so easy, and understandably so, to feel like it's our fault when we're pushed away, that we're being isolated, but it's not. We're just the ones to experience it more, and feel it...

Hi Heidi, It seems to be perfectly normal for a sufferer to go without contact for a few days, even a week, or at times longer. As to keeping in touch, that's something I'd recommend discussing with him. My girlfriend often says she needs time and space, but has said she appreciates it when I...

I really needed to see this tonight, because I feel exactly the same with my girlfriend. I don't really have any answers right now, beyond letting you know that you're not alone in that feeling. I'm really struggling at the minute, while I love her, my girlfriend has never said it back to me...

I think it will be hard, but do-able. I'd imagine that when you look at him you see both him as he is now, and him as he was when he was abusing you, and it's hard to separate those two men from each other. You say he's behaving well now, that he's been diagnosed and is on medication - in my...

I don't really want to make a new thread, and I guess this issue is kind of related. My girlfriend is slightly upset with me because she feels like I'm suffocating her in terms of hobbies. She's pointed out that a lot of the things I do - running, yoga, writing, and so forth is things she...

Oh, plus I've found out she's still on the dating site we met on. I've called her up on it before and she claimed it was because her and her flatmate (who also uses it) go on to look at the messages they've received and joke about the oddballs they get things from. The fact that she's on there...