Recent content by AlshaSoDak

Oh I do appreciate that so very much. I'm at a loss. Mostly I've just tried to get back in touch with me. He did text earlier. Told me to go out for some ice cream with my daughter and enjoy the day. And honestly, I've been reading a lot here today. Many newer members have been asking the same...

It's been five days today (Saturday.) He called Thursday twice to talk. Tried to make me laugh, hashed or to understand. I wish I could give you that for the closure you want, but I can't." Why can't you? Is it because you're lost and don't know the answers yourself? "Possible." He's texted me...

Oh yes. I totally agree his body, his choice. I don't state my opinion either direction. I guess I was just hoping I wasn't crazy for feeling the way I feel about it. He typically listens to the good doctor. She told him to get back on them a week ago Monday. Here we are again. Just a shock...

Does anyone else deal with their suffering SO going on/off meds? In our year long relationship he has gone on and off meds a handful of times. Some with medication changes, some just because..well, I'm honestly not sure why. He sees his doc monthly with extra for med revaluations.. I'm not sure...

Things with my SO have been so up and down since February when he lost his job. Don't get me wrong, he's been diligent in searching, and I'm sure the financial stress is crushing. But it seems to be more than that. He does visit every week, and we speak daily, but he hasn't been himself. And...

I'm not sure what the reason was for your SO's trauma. But I've read sometimes heighted sex drive after trauma is directly linked to safety. I speak with my therapist about things that happen in my relationship, sexual and otherwise. She suggested the reason my SO was dominant and distant right...

I'm glad to hear your experience is similar! My SO doesn't like to do vulnerable, straight fact. He definitely keeps the guard up most of the time. He links the physical affection to emotional connection and I understand that is very overwhelming for him. He's always nervous how the emotion...

Thank you! I agree with that. I can't say I'm stressed. Just a girl who's vet is in a motorcycle club and pretty handsome, so a little bit over protective! Lol. On a serious note, I just want to know what his hang up is, I don't mind one bit if we're "labeled" or not, I know he's sincere. Sex...

@Snowflakes thank you for the thread link! I had not seen it but will take a look! Yes. I don't bring up the exes unless he does. Both his wives weren't understanding of his behavior or his PTSD. Both were unfaithful. His second marriage lasted less than a year. I imagine he's taking his time...

I've gotten through one of my books on PTSD. One point in particular peaks my interest, wondering if anyone else has any weight on the subject...Intimacy and commitment. I have been seeing my SO, with combat PTSD, since July 2016. He was diagnosed in 2010. When we first started actually seeing...

I'm lucky to be with a sufferer who acknowledged his symptoms and has been diligent in trying to be more than his illness. He was upfront about it, and I, not knowing much about it at all just had to research to understand. I understand the frustrations of not knowing. I live with generalized...

Agreed, I learned early on I cannot relate to that level of pain. The only thing I encounter that is relative is loving him through it. I just try to stick to the basic "I'm sorry," because I am so sorry any person has to endure all this. I just struggle for a response, and I don't want to say...

Thank you once again for your insight and wise words :) I can use all the help I can get. I wondered if it was more of a preference. I will just keep doing what I know how to do and if he keeps responding well, I suppose that will be my answer.

I'm looking for insight into proper replies to reaching out. My previous thread describes my recent encounter with my partners most intense withdrawal since we have been seeing each other. I questioned what I should do for me (and my sanity) during this time, since I'm very lost and he can't...

Thank you for all the tips and explanations. It's so helpful to hear honesty from the other side of this beast. I guess you never know how truly debilitating PTSD can be until it's put right into your world. Thank you again.