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Or you can be angry and take it personally I guess. That is the other option. Not the one I usually go with, but you do you.

I'm sorry that I can't pick up the phone and give you someone to process your loss with. I know that I've been that person to you for the past year or so. I need space from you. I need you to understand this isn't punishment. It's okay that you're not as ready for a relationship as you'd...

How long have you been together? Kind of reminds me of how it felt after the honeymoon phase faded out. There are a lot of people here with much more experience than me. My 2c: It can be so hard when you’re trying to engage with someone and it feels like they’re shutting you out. A lot of...

Please don’t invite me somewhere and then tell me you weren’t sure if you wanted me to come. We spent an hour together. We laughed and commiserated with each other. The kids had fun on the swings. Do you not care about how I feel when you hit me with that? Christ. I know it’s hard for you to...

That’s wonderful! It’s so important to have outlets and support outside of the relationship. And this is the sweetest thing I’ve read all day.

Saw her today; she gave me a ride from the airport. Talked pleasantly and joked with each other for half an hour. It felt nice and natural. A week ago having a face-to-face conversation would have left me anxious. I feel that at the very least we can continue to build a friendship, which is a...

She’s reached out to me every day since I wrote that, either to check in or to talk. It might help that I’m out of town for my grandmother’s memorial service. She mentioned that she wants to talk, which could mean anything. We’ll have a chance to next week. I’ll note that losing my grandmother...

Thank you for that. She’s needed to check out mentally for a week at a time; I try to show patience and empathy, but it’s so hard not to feel hurt by it. It’s so hard to need to hide what I’m feeling because she doesn’t have space to acknowledge it. She does care. She was steady when I was...