Recent content by candor

Hi Marcus: Six years ago, I got the same advise as you are getting. My guy has additional mental health issues. Our last break was 8 months long then back to explosive love and after two months of that back to black. He is always in doubt of anybody's motive to be around him. He eventually...

Fern I am in awe that you seem to be as self aware as you are. The fact that you question and self reflect about the way your brain reacts, the courage you have to communicate your doubts with a partner/ friend do you stop to give yourself credit for that? PTSD or not, all us humans sometimes...

@ mumstheword I trust without good reason and learning to be careful is just as hard as the reverse I think. It has helped to know someone who is my opposite though it's quite uncomfortable for me.

>Have you ever experienced this? Yes I have but the shoe has been on the other foot. I totally identify with your description of your new friend. If you want to respond and react constructively, I suggest asking her if she wants to hear about how her behavior affects you. You can add that your...

Justmehere Thanks for posting this. I think that the strategy that you are currently using is really good. Being scared and having the courage to be that vulnerable to say it to someone ironically shows a lot of courage and actually trust. You trust that person with the way you are feeling and...

How I deal with bullies depends on my mood and how well I know/ respect them. Here are a few examples: If someone at work starts yelling at me, I will report them if I don’t know them and don’t usually work with them. If I do work with them, i usually make them sit down with me and ask them if...

You have a choice. However, your son has no choice but to abide by your decision to stay in an abusive relationship. It could lead to him repeating the pattern in his future relationships. I have allowed myself to be treated abusively cause I believed that by doing so I could confront my own...

Grit thank you for your very thoughtful and heartfelt post on a subject that is so relevant to so many of us that have suffered or are suffering. I have always believed as an adult that pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice. I have memories of suicidal attempts from the age of 8. I use to...

Imho, confident people find sexual and romantic relationships with ease. I don’t see it as gender based. Most people men or women, old or young want a relationship that is not based on fear or power nor a struggle with these. When I was growing up punishment was a normal part of raising kids...

I will add myself to the list of women who didn’t listen. Four years ago, I sounded a lot like you. I haven’t been able to stop thinking about your post. You asked for advise so here you go: 1) Do not live with an abuser. Move out. Safety comes first and psychologically and physically you are at...

I have found a source that I hope might help the op even if there is quite a lot of technical jargon. https://ir.uiowa.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1009&context=psychology_pubs And Friday, I have learned something from our disagreement. The last decade, researchers have contested whether...

Friday I don’t know why you are writing nope. It’s name is very confusing and the american associations and the europeans don’t have equal definitions for the same term. We all seem to agree that it has nothing to do with dsm-v or cluster A. Nor does it have that much to do with schizophrenia...

It is really important to rule out any physical medical disorder first. Psychologically, most people have heard of autistic spectrum. Less have heard of a dissasociation spectrum. It has a name: schizotypy. I have a dissociative personality as do some I know. I have always known its me but have...

What you wrote makes a lot of sense to me. Sociophobia is BTW a natural response to what seems to also happen to you naturally and involuntarily. The involuntary part is important that you acknowledge. You are not trying to hurt people or enjoying it. Have you tried anything that has helped...

Do you dissociate when you are being verbally cruel? Are there times when the memory gets foggy or is it crystal clear? Are you doing it to provoke a fight ( self harm) or is it usually a protective mechanism? Does the cruelty need a reason or special specific circumstances like romantic...