Recent content by Cherry_Bluebell

Thank you everybody it's good to hear I'm not alone with this decision :hug:

Yes I believe he had a personal bias. The case has been closed now they dropped all charges

I don't have much to do with my family, some of them I don't at all but the ones I do occasional see I've decided I'm cutting them off now. They're unhealthy, they gossip and tell lies about me and criticise me and I'm sick of it. I also feel like they play a game where they can behave in a bad...

Thank you everybody. Just an update all charges against him were dropped by the police

I've left an abusive on/off relationship a few months ago. Cut the story short it's all ended up in him being arrested for harassment and assault against me. What makes me angry about everything is I was diagnosed with ptsd approx a year ago and over a year ago I finally got into employment...

Trauma - that's true, I didn't think of it like that

Trauma - I'm not sure why memories and opening up about these things triggers panic attacks (then continuous panic attacks afterwards). A similar thing happened to me when I told my therapist

Namenotdiagnosis - is there anybody in work you can tell briefly about this? (Without explaining what happened)

Starlite - you're better off without your mother and thankfully your aunt has been there for you. Just remember that even though your mum turned her back on you and put him 1st, its her who's going to miss out more than you. She's lost an important person in her life - for an abuser. Will you...

WillyKat - I'm really glad to hear you found telling other liberating. How has therapy worked for you since? I do need to buy more self help books relating to all of this, the only type of books I've read are child abuse biopgraphies and one self help book about having a narcisstic mother, which...

Starlite - sorry to hear that you went through that its terrible. Does your aunt support you with it?

This hasn't taken away the thoughts and feelings towards it like self blame and guilt but I feel more liberated and that I can talk about being a rape victim in person (althought I can't talk about the event still). I've told my best friend I was raped - they said it explains so much and I'm...

Namenotdiagnosis - there's also that thing where they might be good at their job but for them deep down its just a profession. I witnessed many support workers and people who ran or was part of the management in charities who didn't give a crap about their clients and was open in the offices how...

Lucycat - of course privaledged people still get abused but I'm talking about privaledged people with no experiences of abuse. They maybe good at their job and be able to help, but as I said you know deep down they've never been through it and been in your shoes

Namenotdiagnosis - let me know how it goes, I could imagine its going to be very hard