Recent content by Effie

Bellbottoms - The Jon Spencer Blues Explosion I was like, 12 when it came out and not a fan. It's grown on me.

I always get a different result when I take this test. It seems my personality type depends on my mood.

Okay, I think I'm understanding you, but you're not hearing me. Understanding where people are coming from doesn't mean anyone is telling you that you need to put up with it or allow it. I'm not suggesting that. We have different experiences, but I do share some experiences with you. Moving...

I discerned that you sound like a dick. Hope it's not your schtick.

I'm sorry you've been hurt a lot, but you are comparing. You're comparing your pain and your reaction to their behaviour. There's no point in doing this. You can't control other peoples behaviour, but you can control your response to it. That isn't to say that your response can't be simply...

Why would you get killed simply by going to Germany? You don't have a realistic perspective of Germany. I'll be stopping in Germany in May on a trip. I'm not the least bit worried.

I can empathize but remember while your experiences shaped you, their experiences shaped them. I wasn't a bully as a kid. But school wasn't a sanctuary for me at all. Teachers can be cruel and for those who are their targets, anyone that the teacher likes is guilty by association.

I'm sorry you went through more that and had more than one abuser to confront. I'd like to offer support like you are here, but there's so many stories. Anything I say in response feels trite.

I had frequent confrontations with him. No one was scarier than my father and I wasn't mature. I had a wounded pride and it was easier to face that, than to feel like a victim. I always was a crazy kid. I once tied off to a bridge and jumped off it when I was nine and earned myself a bloody...

I lived in Germany for 4 years as a young child, 2 years on one military base, back to England and then 2 years stationed in British West Germany again, but the second time, we lived near base, but not on base. I went to a German kindergarten but had Selective Mutism, so I didn't listen or...

Thanks. I tried getting into what he actually did, but it never seems appropriate. It wasn't okay to happen, so when would it ever be okay to talk about? I think this is part of why it takes so long to tell anyone. It's never okay to talk about.

I left FB around 2009 or 2010. I moved a lot growing up, so there were mostly people I only vaguely remembered. There was a lot of people who liked drama and updates about what people ate and how much exercise they did that day. Or one of dozens and dozens of charities that were too much. I...

What were you trying to say? I don't want to put words in your mouth but as I understood your posts, you were saying in a number of different ways that you've been worse than these people. In my observation, most of the kids being the nastiest to other kids at school, had terrible homes lives.

I had witnesses. A friend had a place in the country. As a group of teens, we went to stay at her place and have a small party, her parents were there. After lights out, some of us snuck out to an old garage for some underage drinking. It was her 18 year old cousin, 2 guy friends, 14 and 15...

The thing is, you don't know that they're life wasn't harder than yours. The face I put forward at school, didn't tell people anything about what was happening at home.