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My mother in law does keep my daughter 1 day a week. We need 3 days a week. She works so she can't do that. My mom doesn't work - she did, but she quit after Makenna was born. I have few other options as I really only have 1 good friend, who also works, my mom's sisters (who would side with my...

I did try to explain things to him when all hell broke loose just 2 weeks prior to my daughter's birth. Mom and Dad iced me out and I knew he'd hear a twisted tale so I wrote him an email. He generally tries to stay very neutral, if he didn't witness it, he doesn't know the full story so he...

@FridayJones I WISH my mind would implode so I could rebuild it the way I want it to be.

I just told my husband this and I think it really does sum up the whole of every situation like this one.... "it comes down to - I don't have a good reason (to hide behind) other than, "this is what I want/need" and that reason never seems good enough"

I need to hear this. Again and again and again. Because it's so deeply ingrained that my needs and my family's needs are NOT more important. That my family IS my mom and dad and brother...because they were family first. And because it's so regularly reinforced, as in this situation - so my mind...

She can turn my brother, whom I love dearly and have always been tight with, against me. She can twist words and paint a picture of me that isn't true. She can alienate me from my family. She can rob my child of knowing her aunts and uncles and cousins. She can put me in financial crisis because...

Well, yeah. She is. But I don't GET IT. I can't fathom treating people like that.

Oh God, I feel absolute panic at the thought of the apocalypse that would ensue if I didn't do ANYTHING for her on Mother's Day! I realize I jump through hoops to keep from getting the rage fallout, the guilt voicemails, the icy withdrawal, and the absolute despair and depression I feel over it...

I have a narcissitic mother. Maybe it goes without saying, but I grew up in a emotionally abusive home. My father is her enabler, but this isn't about my dad. For as long as my brother and I lived at home, we were always reminded to make Mother's Day really special for mom. (Mom didn't put the...

@FridayJones i get that to a point. In my relationship I feel like its I have PTSD, I need to work on my reactions and expectations and intensity of feeling. But he has ADD, and well, that's just the way he is! So, sure he has ADD and mornings are a nightmare for him, so....oh well don't even...

@circe47 He is not abusive or violent. He's hardly even expressive with his emotions at all. In fact he often comes across as indifferent which drives me insane. I'd rather him yell at me - then I'd know he cared about something. He has ADD and he told me he would go see a therapist to help cope...

As a matter of fact, there are many a day when I'm staying home with our daughter that he oversleeps and rushes around to get to work. FIne, whatever, that's his job and his morning to manage how he wants and I don't say a word. But when it's OUR morning he's messing with and I feel the burden...

@FridayJones It's not so much how he sleeps and manages his mornings as much as it is how I feel he doesn't think about me. Is it really too much to ask in a marriage that we both think of each other's needs and try to help each other out? So I guess I'm pissy because I feel like I do that for...

Focusing on the things he wants done means I have next to no time to do those things that I want to do such as work on my small business venture

@Simply Simon That's a good idea. The only problem I see with that is, because I also work outside of the home 3 days a week, I only get to do my business stuff in the evenings or during the day on my 2 off days, when my husband is at work, which is hard to do with a toddler. Leaving during the...