Recent content by GrumpyCat

You need to listen to yourself. You need to take care of yourself. You need to nurture yourself. Nothing external to you changes any of the truth of that. No matter what happens.

Thanks for sharing this. You are not stupid, you are human. Trying to care for someone who is hurting while also holding on to your own peace is one of the hardest tightropes to walk. It sounds like you’re dealing with someone who is triggered and reacting from a place of fear or abandonment...

Ok, coming in late here, but here’s my two cents. My apologies if I missed anything in earlier parts of the thread. First off, thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. It’s not easy navigating relationships when trauma is in the room on either side. I’ve been in a similar spot, and...

Hetty (from Ghosts)

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No. And for me it is a healthy choice. I had more than one, but the others were strangers. My main one is a relative. He is out of my life for good.

A. You are not even sure this happened, because you said yourself the memories are foggy. I don't think you should beat yourself up over it. B. If it did happen, it was not the same as if an adult had done this thing. Adults know (or are supposed to know) that this thing is wrong, and why it...

Yes, welcome and I hope there is some comfort here for you. I think many of us have had to cut ties with family. I've had to cut ties with almost all of mine. The only person left is my sister. And it does feel very isolating and lonely. But that is why it is so invaluable to have this resource...

I was abused by my brother when we were children. Physically, mentally and yes, sexually. Of those three, the most impactful was the physical and mental abuse. The sexual abuse was the most memorable but I've been able to move beyond it. I am still dealing with the long term affect of the...

After my mom died and I finally melted down and had the first of my mental breakdowns. my brothers treated me like some kind of china doll for a while. But after a while it went back to the same BS it always has been. Denial, abuse, denigration and degradation. My dad, while supportive on the...

Can you do EMDR over Zoom? That seems impossible to me. I am intensely uncomfortable with Zoom meetings, I can't imagine doing therapy over it.

Do not discount your pain or compare it to anyone else. That's not fair to you. What happened to you was molestation by any reasonable standard. It was painful and is something you have clearly suffered from. It's not like you are some delicate snowflake or something. You were treated badly in a...

My general rule of thumb is, if I've expressed my boundaries and/or asked for accommodation three times with no or inadequate response each time, I know it just isn't going to work. I start looking at that point. All you can go by is your personal experiences. Keep your eyes open and give...

GREAT advice and thank you so much! Update - I seem to have found a job... The offer came in, but I'm waiting for the 'official' offer to come from HR, meanwhile I continue to interview. My living situation is stable for now. My best friend has been able to offer me a bed and I gratefully...

I have in the past enjoyed fishing, photography and hiking. I have more or less given all of those up as they became impractical for me to maintain due to my moving around. I still like to walk, just don't get to hike much as I don't have access to areas to hike. I am fighting the despair...