Recent content by idkhelen

So long story short, my marine vet is saying he needs to be alone and that what he wants to do which is go back in the military, is better to do without a girlfriend. He's saying he needs help because he's still angry at how much pain women has caused him. I asked him if I have done anything to...

Exactly:/ one of the main reasons that keep me tolerating it is because I'm still new to dating someone with PTSD and I don't want to trigger something.

Oh no definitely. It's why I didn't say anything when he did it. I do need to have a conversation about that though. It's really hard to tell when the right time is with him to have these type of boundary talks. If I don't word it right he'll flip. He looks into word choice a lot.

Yeah normally in relationships that would push me already to an argument. I have this habit of allowing him to get away with this stuff because of what he's been through. But I know it's not an excuse for it :/

I mean it makes me sad that he has to compare me with his past relationships. If it was anyone else, normally I would flip about someone going through my phone without permission. I'll probably bring it up if he does it again.

So these past 2 weeks with my marine vet has been amazing. All hes been is sweet to me. Last night when he went to the bathroom, I woke up and tried to go back to sleep. I hear him coming back to bed and felt him grab my phone from next to me. I continue to pretend I was sleeping and even moved...

Well he told me that he would rather keep my friends and him in 2 different worlds. He says he analyzes people too much and it makes him see the ugly. Before he met this friend some drunk guy grabbed me by the shoulder and my vet kicked the guy out himself. From then on throughout the night he...

Which I think won't be a problem, not planning to cheat.

So update for you guys! I talked with him about my boundaries, I told him if he starts yelling and/or cussing at me etc. that I will just walk away and leave for an hour. If we're in the car I won't talk for an hour. He seemed very understanding of it and even told me thank you for setting the...

Thank you so much! (: will definitely keep you guys posted!

Thank you, that helps a lot. I'm gonna see him in a couple days, and at the moment at least from what he said, he's feeling "normal" again. Hopefully I'll be able to have the boundaries talk with him.

Don't be sorry for being blunt. I'd prefer it over getting the sugar coat version. Appreciate the feedback! I know there's only so much I can do, and i can't help someone who doesn't want it.

Thank you for the feedback. I want to set strict boundaries but I don't know how to go about setting them.

Really thank you for the words. I really do appreciate it. I'll still stick it out for a little bit and set my boundaries, the next time he gets angry at me, I think I'm going to really analyze whether im helping or if the improvement isn't going anywhere. I'm going into work now! Thank you for...

He used to be in therapy but then he quit. He felt it was useless and he said that the medication would make it worse for him. Thank you for the advice and internet hugs.