Recent content by jill smith

Doubting so much right now ptsd or not its no way to treat anyone aka..me

Hi sweetpea76 The inevitable happened she got in touch after only 2days and again started to draw me in. This time long E mail highlighting the many ways in which "my"behaviour and avtions have damaged her but we can discuss them as I continue to learn new behaviours and work through our issues...

Your saying exactly the same words as my friends and my counsellor have this week. I really appreciate your input thank you.

I know you are right. She has taken that decision for me and now wants a "break" with no contact. Everything I do is now according to her unhealthy behaviour and looks to trigger her symptoms. I am absolutely devastated I hope she gets the help she needs quickly. She is still waiting for one to...

Thanks I get that you are mostly right but I do think I am.the reason she had to leave our home I wasn't able to deal with her reactions and responces as she needed and she felt I made her worse so thats how she felt. I could of been less emotional I could of took a step back but I didn't...

This roller coaster continues. My partner now says we have to agree to disagree over the last situation regarding "did I drink the gin or not" sounds ridiculous even saying it but I have let it go by saying I agree I dont want to enter in to discussion about it again. She is having an extremely...

The trust thing is difficult to let roll off as I am not lying.I cannot like I have done when with other accusations just brush round it. I didnt lie but she insists I did and it means I can't deliver trust...her words. So this is different, every accusation she believes is true, my emotional...

Thank you

Hi, whilst I wanted to believe that you where wrong about my partner I now see by her continuing behaviour that your not wrong. After a week of no contact being her choice she re engaged contact last friday. We had a pleasant evening all.be it a little strained initially. The end of the evening...

Sorry I am not discounting your opinion I just find it difficult to believe she is manipulating me.

Is it not that she is in the midst of a ptsd crisis with her actions and responces are due in the main to that?

Hi since my last post my situation as declined to a heartbreaking low. After my insensitive outburst in march my partner found it increasingly difficult to move forward dispite believing my remorce. I became increasingly paranoid and anxious that she would end our relationship. Her need for...

I have previously posted on here as why of diarying my emotions as life is difficult just now. The replies have been helpful its good to hear from people with insite both suffering and supporting. Unfortunately things have deteriorated due to further situations spiralling to the point we are...

Thank you for your reply, I take what you are saying on board. I do indeed think alcohol does not agree with me at the moment so I have abstained for the moment. Historically I am a fun person to be around when joining in with drinks but I recognize that my circumstances at home are making me...

Thanks all for replies. My partner is still in retreat from me. She thinks I am going to keep invading the space she asked for and is very clear it has to be as she described. No entering or knocking. Today in a heated discussion she graphicly described how my behaviour had made her feel 2weeks...