Recent content by johnny_longtorso

Like everything else, it depends. There is no "right" answer or hard-and-fast rules. Your husband should absolutely feel able to present his view on any given point, but he should be aware that there may be consequences from doing so. It is difficult for the ptsd sufferer to take constructive...

Thank you, Kathy, thank you, bec! I think it is critical to maintain your perspective as a carer for a sufferer. I personally cannot imagine intentionally "getting even" or playing some kind of "tit-for-tat" with my wife. This is one of those situations where keeping score is pointless, and...

the neat thing about living in the US is that you have the option of owning a firearm for whatever purpose you want. If you feel that you need one for self-defense, you can get one. If you feel the need to carry one on your person, most states allow some sort of concealed-carry provision (there...

hey anthony-- It is very difficult to make momentous decisions when there is no "right" solution apparant, and there are so many uncertainties involved. Remember that my advice is worth exactly what you paid for it. I don't know Karrie-Ann that well, but my spouse tends to be very resistant and...

Jen-but hopefully, with time and treatment, he will be able to stack more good days together.

waynes- thx for showing us the light and sharing your insight-I hope that we all are able to gain some of the perseverance that you and your wife are showing in dealing with PTSD.

hi kim-dealing with a spouse suffering from this condition is no fun--everyone that has posted will attest to that. By all means, find somone to unload your feelings onto. It helps to verbalize (or write) your feelings out to another, or even just to yourself. There is something about putting...

hey Brian, glad to see you've joined. I think you are doing the right thing-need to humor her until she gets a little better grounded. If she's getting flashbacks, she is about at the end of her (mental) tether. A soft touch and lots of patience is called for. With my spouse, I cannot...

yay!! It sounds like there is progress being made! Wow, with the surgery being such a success, he is going to have to unlearn all of his previous beliefs about what he is capable of accomplishing and start to go out and live again---a sure source of stress and fear. I'm not trying to pee on...

Welcome to the rollercoaster. I am glad to hear that hubs is on an upswing-they seem to come too infrequently. I am able to post right now because I'm not making lunch-veiled is!! a very unusual event. It seems that there is a day or two of clarity followed by two to seven days of crashing...

save me a slice of apple and a slice of pecan!

k- there is no quick fix for PTSD. I have read that it is a matter of years to recover, not months or weeks. With my wife, the more I push for her to do something, the more resistance I get from her, or she will do the exact opposite, or explode and do something completely off base. I keep...

k-sorry to see that your so frustrated, but I think that it is normal and typical for a spouse to feel that way. From the outside (your brother's and to a degree from your view), it does look like your husband has checked out of all responsibilty, accountibility, stress, financial obligation...

Well, it wasn't that hard. She is on the computer most of the time. Since she was diagnosed with anxiety disorder and ptsd, she has been researching the heck out of them online. When she finds something she wants to talk about, we kick it around a bit. I knew she had found a board about ptsd...

Johnny Longtorso comes from the only episode of Mystery Science Theatre 3000 that I have seen. The show is (was?) on the comedy channel. They show a very bad science-fiction movie from the 50s or 60s, and use puppets to mock and make fun of the movie. I only remember two of the characters...