Recent content by JT80

No, there are no children involved. I have no idea why she won't just block her ex. She has on social media and everywhere else, but won't do it on her phone.

I kind of can relate to your situation. My SO was in a long-term narcissistic relationship before I came along and for 2 and a half years it feels like I know her ex just as well as I know my partner. Within the first week of conversation with my SO when I first met her, I heard more stories...

Absolutely, 100% agree. She no longer sees that therapist, thank god, but she has totally retained the backward parts he's said to her and uses it as justification all the time. Amen to this also! I just wish my partner would understand that :)

Hi Lynn, My partner has a habit of doing this to me also and it still pops up every now and then. I wore a pair of sweatpants that reminded her of a pair of sweatpants that she used to wear when she was a teenager once and ever since then, I get told that one of the main reasons she gets so mad...

I still remember how strange I felt, but excited I became when I stumbled across this forum. I lingered about for a while and just spent hours at a time reading through threads and I was completely amazed at just how similar the majority of the stories I was reading were with my own situation...

:stop: I've been with my s/o for almost two years and there has not once been a time when she has gone into an isolation period where she hasn't stated that we need to be friends and break up within the moments beforehand; only to return and resume contact with me as my partner a few days...

This is spot on. It is our natural response as supporters to think like this when we're being barraged with hurtful things from our partners/sufferers. Their PTSD is always in the back of our minds and it's so easy to rationalize every bad moment as being just because of the PTSD. But, our...

The first time I summoned the courage to stand up for myself early on in my relationship, she was hitting me with personal comments from all directions and I yelled back, "I will NOT be your emotional punching bag any longer!" and I stood up and walked out... Y'know, she still brings that moment...

I've heard the same thing from my partner and it's usually when she's about to shut down also. It's hard for me to say why things get said as they do in those moments because I'm not a sufferer. As a supporter, I just let it slide at that moment but will sometimes bring it back up in a...

Yes, my partner never communicates to me that she's about to isolate either, but just like you, I've learned to recognize the signs that something I'm not going to like is approaching. I think that's a good thing for a supporter to be aware of as you can be prepared for the worst. I cannot...

I really feel for you :( It's definitely not a nice or easy thing to go through and is so hard when you've got this close emotional bond, but yet they feel so distant and far. I have never had to deal with a really long isolation period... she has never gone any longer than a week. A little...

I'm glad I could provide a positive for some members out there with my story :) Since this post, me and my partner have had more ups and downs (mostly ups, which is awesome), but we're now 18 months into our relationship and still going strong. There is still so much that I don't understand and...

I'm apparently intimidating and "scary"... and I don't ever intend to be. I think it's because I do tend to take every stranger I may come across with caution. I don't speak, but I'm an observer until I pick up a general "feel" for the person I'm speaking with. I'm also super hard to read and...

I have often said that to my partner that she isn't the only one going through this also. We're just shy of a 12 months relationship and are still really learning things about each other. But we're getting there and taking each day as it comes and, you're right, she is totally worth it to me.

That's unfortunately one of the most frustrating things I've found about being a supporter of a sufferer. Those close to you are not always going to understand and it's hard to explain when 1. You don't completely understand it yourself and 2. They can't see it from your perspective. I totally...