Recent content by K201

Hi your story sounds oh so familiar to mine. I know what you are going through I know how hard it can be and how sad you feel. My ex did the same and shut down. It is very difficult and I am still going through it. I know you feel like certain things are your fault and you are saying the wrong...

@Meadowsweet that makes a lot of sense. My bf would say that to me. It isn't you, he would try to make me understand but at that point I wasn't thinking he meant it was the PTSD. I didn't know anything about what PTSD then. So now when he says "I tried to tell you" I feel it's unfair because...

I am angry that you haven't written back to my text last night about how your day way. I am angry that you cannot even think of me for a moment when you are the only thing running through my head. I'm angry that I am going to go to ask about a therapist for myself in order to help ultimately...

@Meadowsweet thank you that makes a lot of sense. You are right that is just my emotional reaction. It's not about me, I try to say that over and over. I don't know how much better it makes me feel, but I have to remember to not be selfish and give him that time for himself that he needs...

@Rosanne well we have been together for a year. He has combat ptsd and tbi. I just made a thread that's painfully detailed lol. He told me from the start and gave me like this little info pamphlet to read but he down played it very much ( I think I'm learning he uses avoidance) and looking back...

@LilBit I agree with that. I was really wondering about this question and I think you are right. My bf is shut down at this time and very emotionless. If not for his ptsd I would just think he was a heartless person seeing me hurting and being fine with it. Thank you for making that point it...

@Rosanne thank you so much for your reply. Yes that is what I have been doing, but I'm learning now to give more space and in the few days I have the results are already more positive. You are strong for doing that this long. I'm trying to evaluate if I would be able to go through this again...

It does bother me.. I am very worried about him. I am reading a lot I have no idea where his mind is I know. That's why I am asking for help... I have called the VA caregivers help line trying to get info but they weren't very helpful. I ended up calling the VA by me (I am in nj) and I told the...

@K201 This is such a big fear of mine. You are very strong.. What is your reaction when he pulls away?

He isn't in treatment is the thing... But our relationship is wonderful. His relationship with his ex was terrible not because of just him but her as well. He always tells me to stop asking ( I started asking for more details when that happened) because they had insane REAL problems and our...

I'm sorry to be giving you all literally EVERY detail of what's happening, but this is just so new and shocking for me. None of my friends understand at all or my family and they are treating it like a normal relationship would be " Oh if he loved you he'd miss you, he's so selfish, etc. etc."...

Hi everyone. I am new to ptsd and just learning about it. My bf is a marine vet who was in Iraq and has combat ptsd and tbi. I knew he did when we first got together. But I had no idea what it actually was.... Basically we fell in complete love had plans to buy a house.. Spoke to me about...

This is interesting I feel my ptsd sufferer is pushing away right now he's kind of in a shut down and I feel myself having those feelings of "how could he do this if he loves me etc." like you were saying. Also my friends and family don't understand either this is just the first time it has...

I'm going through this same thing with my marine vet Loyalbydefault. It is so hard I am so lost. I am going to start a thread that tells my whole story, but if you would like to talk about it, I would love someone to talk about it with. We were together almost a year and he said all the same...

Hi everyone just wanted to introduce myself. I'm the girlfriend of a combat vet with PTSD. My boyfriend was a Marine in Iraq. I met him many years after he came home. We have been together about a year, live together, and are planning on getting married. He has his PTSD very much under control...