Recent content by kizzy-love

You know what!! My mistake I am completely in the wrong place. I clearly don't know how to use this site and know the rules and quite honestly don't care to anymore. I will pay someone instead for some real therapy, support and comfort. ..have a nice life!!!

@Nicolette there is only 1 person that I felt was being mean and rude and that's who my comment was directed to. I came here for life experiences, opinions and support. Not to be told that he's just a horrible cheaper jerk and whatever else he was called... that is not what support groups are...

@joeylittle I can understand your point of view and truly respect it. I am definitely trying to find a way to accept it bc I'm not ready to give up on my marriage. My confusion was about his feelings, I couldn't see where he was coming because I do support him, love him, want him and thought I...

@BloomInWinter thank you I appreciate that. No one has to agree with others opinions but I don't tolerate disrespect and negativity. Just bc I experienced a bump on the road during my marriage it doesn't give anyone the right to talk to me in a rude manner and be disrespectful. We are all here...

@Lizio I wasn't talking you... kindly keep your negative comments to yourself!! I don't owe you an explanation or any justifications. Have a blessed day, positive vibes coming your way!!

@Lizio duh!! I don't have a medical degree or the tools to make his life better!! Of course treatment is how I would want to help him. You are choosing to read what you want. .. clearly on my earlier post I mentioned that I need to find a way to get him to go. He always felt like since there is...

@haltija ... I have an idea idk everything but have enough to keep fighting. A lot of ppl may think I'm crazy for saying this but the situation itself could end up being a huge break through to getting him help. Maybe he feels very guilty and is simply trying to do what it takes to not lose me...

@haltija that's just it he doesn't blame his actions on PTSD. I blame his feelings as "unwanted, unloved, distressed, anxious, lost, angry, sad..." on PTSD. the act itself is not excusable nor is it PTSD related I get that. The act itself is being dealt with and he regrets it and knows he was...

@shimmerz @Lizio You guys are so negative!! Wow!! No I don't think I'm "special-er" lol for one no one ever knew about his PTSD and yes he was diagnosed along with dissociation and for 2 he was never the type to make a commitment but for some reason chose to marry me and settle down and for 3...

@Lizio listen I'm not stupid nor am I naive. I'm expressing what i see...let's forget the cheating for a moment. When u watch someone day after day prior to this situation taking place and u see them react differently to the same things, normal life things and you talk to them and have to get...

@shimmerz no I’m not offended, i believe that us (humans) tend to rule others situations and judge very quickly based on personal experiences before we know all ins and outs. Just like hospitals, you have a fever and a sore throat its no big deal they easily rule it out as a cold and send you on...

@Lizio There are times when we have to accept the consequences that comes with the actions we choose to take. In other words I knew when we got together that he has never been in a committed relationship, I knew that he knew nothing about maintaining a relationship, I knew that the majority of...

@shimmerz no need to get offended my response was to several posts not just yours, maybe i shouldn’t have tagged you. Either way i chose to be here, my "subject" question was the topic i was searching for when i came across this site, however talking to different ppl with different scenarios...

@haltija Thanks for the feedback. There are no motives behind our marriage. Military benefits don’t mean anything to me. He’s a reservist and no longer makes that kind money for it to be financially beneficial. He works 2 jobs to take care of the family (by choice) as I have a great job on my...

@Sweetpea76 @shimmerz I think that most of you have this idea that he sees this weak person with no pride...everything I have shared thus far is all internal. The person he sees is strong and wont take any ish from anyone. he knows there are boundaries, he knows that I can and will leave if he...