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    Am I Helping Or Making It Worse?

    Those are all very valid questions...since the last incident when he lost it, I have been pondering all of these things. It's so hard to pinpoint exactly how I feel about this. When he has one of his rare "blue sky moments" where the sun seems to shine through the clouds, I am over the moon...
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    General Other Supporters, How Do You Handle The Concerns Of Loved Ones?

    So... I have already posted a good bit about my relationship with my boyfriend. Combat Vet, TBI and PTSD, been a civilian for about 5 years now, and has anger issues. I love him very much, and he loves me, but right now he is really really struggling. I don't know if we will ever have a...
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    General He's Driving Me Nuts!

    You will definitely be in my thoughts and prayers...I know this is hard. One last thing I just had to share as it is a lesson that I have been learning in the past week. I have realized that one of the most helpful things I can do for my sweetheart is to take excellent care of myself. That way...
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    General He's Driving Me Nuts!

    Oh, that's rough...if it were me, I would step back and let him do his own thing. In my experience with my boyfriend with PTSD, pressure makes him balk. I usually lay the plan in front of him once, and then leave it to him to respond. My reasoning behind this is that I don't know his PTSD well...
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    Am I Helping Or Making It Worse?

    Well I don't want to have to leave him, but I also don't want to be an enabler. Since I joined this forum yesterday, I have completely immersed myself in research about PTSD, and I am finding that it completely changes my outlook. I am realizing that up until now, I have expected him to be able...
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    General PTSD - Relationship Deal Breakers

    Also, @Ketamine Dreams , I can very much relate to you having an issue with the lack of intimacy. If it were just the lack of sex, it would be one thing...but our norm is touching twice a day: before he leaves for work, and when he gets home. It is merely a hug and a peck on the lips each time...
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    General PTSD - Relationship Deal Breakers

    This definitely pertains to my situation...I am currently in that phase where I'm contemplating whether or not to go or stay. There has been abuse, and for some reason I have pushed through it (not sure if this is bad for him or not...it's definitely bad for me). However, I do feel that he has a...
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    Am I Helping Or Making It Worse?

    I just love him so much, and wish from the bottom of my heart that he didn't have to deal with this at all. I know he will never be entirely normal, but I look forward to the day when he has some relief.
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    Am I Helping Or Making It Worse?

    Wow....thank you, @Sweetpea76. That's the kind of input I was looking for. I need to learn how to help him best, and it's gonna be counterintuitive a lot of the time, I think. I also need to encourage him to get help...and tell him that if he doesn't, then I can't stay.
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    Am I Helping Or Making It Worse?

    He does seem to be a narcissist, for sure. Everything in this relationship revolves around him...from the activities that we do, to what we talk about, to what goes on during sex. I also think it makes him feel better about himself to try to bring me down to his level by criticizing me. Before I...
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    Am I Helping Or Making It Worse?

    Thank you very much :) Right now just talking about it helps so much, as his method of handling our issues is to just act like it never happened. Never mind that I am trembling when he hugs me...he doesn't like to talk about these incidents after the fact at all. I am trying to figure out if...
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    Am I Helping Or Making It Worse?

    So since closeness is a major trigger, will it always be this way, or will things improve if I patiently wait and show him nothing but kindness and love?
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    Am I Helping Or Making It Worse?

    That is what I thought I would hear...I feel in my heart that I haven't done anything deserving of the way he has treated me, and also that no normal relationship is that unaffectionate, in spite of what he says. I know that our issues can't all boil down to me being selfish and needy, when in...
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    Am I Helping Or Making It Worse?

    Thanks for your honesty. I definitely am at a crossroads right now...just trying to decide if I can be the one who helps him through his journey to a healthier place, or whether or not I am just needlessly placing myself in harm's way. The most disturbing part of our story took place 2 nights...
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    Am I Helping Or Making It Worse?

    Hi there, I am new to this whole forum thing, so please bear with me. I have just reached such a point of desperation that I know that I want to move forward rather than stay in such a place of stagnation, and I know that the first step is talking about it. Basically I am seeking advice from...
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