Recent content by lil_fighter

A healthy relationship involves: - Accountability, your partner being able to admit when they have been wrong and to apologise. - Being able to feel what you feel, without being made to feel bad, too sensitive, wrong or have your feelings ignored or minimised - Not feeling on edge or...

I relocated to another part of the country for the cheaper rent and quieter lifestyle, uprooted my life and moved to set up a new life for me and my husband when he gets here (he lives abroad). I did it, all of the organising bills, working whilst settling in as much as I could. After 6 weeks...

My husband does not really understand PTSD, he had never heard of it until I explained it to him and he did some research. He is not from the UK and comes from a country where generally there is significantly less mental health awareness and understanding. Despite that he supports me by...

After experiencing SA in 2012 when I was 24, keeping it to myself and not telling a soul for 4 years, In 2016 I eventually told a couple of people I could trust. There was a pattern during those 4 years of being very unsettled, feeling very lost. PTSD symptoms flashbacks, hyper-vigilance...

Could be a trigger from watching a Netflix documentary, not realising it was so triggering. Could be a conversation or memory or even a person that reminds me but I must say being triggered so much has not happened in a good few months, maybe even a year which feels massive. I woke up this...

Sounds like you need time to let this sink in and allow yourself to feel safe with him. Have you spoken to him about what happened and does he know about the trauma you’ve experienced?

This week I kept waking up sweating and feeling like I’d been chased or had been through something really stressful. Was on high alert and didn’t feel rested, know I had a nightmare but didn’t know what it was about exactly and couldn’t remember but was just left with an intense unnerving...

The fact that he has also experienced trauma and gets it is really a good thing. It’s much worse when the person doesn’t get it and doesn’t have any patience or willingness to try to understand. Thank you for posting this as I can relate especially to the self destructive behaviours - looking...

Eve, I think it's very brave and I hope you find it to be a healing process. I know that as you said you will not be sending the letter but the fact that you will be expressing those thoughts and feelings by writing them down will hopefully be a release and also perhaps help you to make sense of...

@Libs40 I am in the UK and was due to have my smear in January, put it off and found excuses but have it booked for April. I experienced sexual assault about 7 years ago, almost 8 yrs now. I've had two smears before and it makes a huge difference who does it. The first one wasn't pleasant but...

Thank you so much @Friday I agree with this and I have had time to centre myself and think about where the triggers are coming from and what was my own stuff to deal with and what about his comment was genuinely overstepping the mark. Today I am feeling more level headed and have been...

I dated a guy around four years ago, I was really into him and he was really into me. I was falling for him but got scared because that same year I came face to face with the person who sexually assaulted me a few years before. The trauma I had suppressed for years resurfaced and I just couldn't...

I am determined to find my own place, so not afraid of getting stuck living with her but I think it's more a fear of being like her and as she has been single for 31 years and I am recently single even though it is irrational and I know our situations are completely different I feel a sense of...

Thank you @Invisible Fire I am in therapy. I was with a therapist for two and a half years and worked on assertiveness and putting boundaries in place with my dad, it also helped with my relationship too. I have just started with this new therapist about a month ago and it feels realistic for me...

My birthday is coming up soon and my mother started to tell me the story about when I was born, what it was like when her waters broke, when my dad took her to the hospital etc and how my grandma was the first person to hold me etc. It's a story I have heard before but this time she went into...