Recent content by LittlestBird

I had a horrible time trying to set boundaries in my previous relationship and I think if it's hard to nearly impossible to be heard and have boundaries respected, then the relationship is likely abusive and unhealthy. I even got a therapist to help me explain what boundaries were, to clearly...

Well, I did it! I got my cat back! I tried to be very "grey rock" when I was at his house, not really making eye contact and not saying anything to him at all, not even when he made a couple comments that got under my skin. I was only at the house for probably less than 3 minutes for my best...

Perhaps part of his attraction towards me is that I look very young. I went and did a lot of lab tests this week and the nurses kept telling me that they thought I was in high school and that they couldn't believe my birth date was accurate, and I still get that a lot. When we first started...

I am starting to come out of the fog of the relationship, 8 months later. As I've been reading more about abusive relationships and narcissistic abuse in relationships, I see that there are a lot of things my partner has done to me over the years that do qualify as abuse: -Telling me, "I'm...

I am going into month 8 of him being mean to me mixed with ignoring me and the occasional little breadcrumb of hope. After he sent me the two pictures of our cats sitting next to a sign he had printed saying "Happy Mother's Day," I texted him and said, "Thank you. That's very sweet and it means...

Well. I was on day 20 of my partner not speaking to me or sending me any pictures of our cats and day 10 of me not saying anything either because it seems like the more I say, the less he says, so I was just giving him the space that he asked for. I've also gotten very tired of his "friends"...

Thank you so much for your replies and insight. It really helps me to hear from other people who aren't biased. My best friends all told me that the woman who said those things sounded full of it and not to trust her or anyone who would speak that way, but I have a tendency to think that they...

Well. I seem to have finally hit the point where my partner is fully ghosting me. He hasn't sent me pictures of our cats since April 24th, didn't even check my text from April 26th, and hasn't said anything since, so that's over a week since he interacted with me and he isn't even bothering to...

Thank you, Paul. I read your response and cried my eyes out, but it made a lot of sense and it made me feel like.. at least other people can see what is happening and that I am not crazy or imagining things. I felt more seen by your response than I have by my own partner in the past 6 months...

Yesterday would have been mine and my partner's anniversary and I struggled with it a lot (with my own depression, self-harm and suicidal thoughts). I took a lot of anxiety medication and called some friends and managed to calm down through the first half of the day, but then I got an email...

Good for you for starting to speak out and get help. I hope that the people you have reached out to have been understanding and supportive of you. I know that it's really hard to ask for help and that it tends to be especially hard for men because of the societal pressures and stereotypes that...

If someone I was dating ever slapped me, I would end things immediately and not even be interested in a friendship anymore, much less a romantic partnership. Men are conditioned a lot by society to just take it if a woman abuses them and they often feel like they are being overdramatic or weak...

Your own therapist thinks that you need space and to work on yourself and that the relationship isn't healthy or helpful to you right now. You yourself want more space and time away from your wife. And when you wanted to do more couple's counseling together, she used the copout of saying "she...

Hello. I can relate to several aspects of what you have written. My partner of 8 years is going through something similar right now, where he started making up things and blaming me for things and has pulled away a lot. He told me he needs space and I'm giving it, and he texts me once or...

Several of my friends and family members have committed suicide, so I understand the impact that it leaves behind, and that's something that I try to remind myself of and think that I don't want my nephew, sister, brother-in-law, or mother to have to deal with. I still often wonder why the...