Recent content by MiaEvie25

Yes, I think having a larger circle of friends is much more feasible right now then dating. I do have friends I regularly see, but I isolate when I’m anxious and lately I’ve been really bad about seeing friends. I always feel better after I see them so I just need to keep that in mind when I...

Yes, I’m finding it hard to only see him once a week already. This week I saw him twice. I have to keep in mind that I’m not doing him any favors by enabling his behavior. If i look at it that way then it’s more likely I will stick to my resolve. He has been cleaning more and taking better...

That's what I thought too about my therapist, as this isn't a negotiable behavior like working with incompatibility, etc. I have a wonderful support network which I am very thankful for (family, friends). I just want to be careful and not burden them too much. I tend to reach out when I'm upset...

The way you put everything is extremely helpful, thank you for you feedback. I’m emotionally exhausted and I have done most of the heavy lifting for the past 2 years and I can’t go on with things the way they are. I told my therapist about what happened and she said I need to leave. I didn’t...

Great way to look at it - if I feel going back is harmful to him I’m way less apt to do so.

You're right. Besides, I always feel guilty for everything, whether it's legit or not. It's in my nature.

I'm currently trying to leave my bf of 5 years due to escalating violence in the relationship. He has had repeated meltdowns and thrown furniture, punched a hole in the wall, etc. It took almost 2 years to get to this point and I feel terrible leaving him, but I don't know what else to do...

Yes, the support group would be for me to process what happened and to have people to talk to about it instead of my friends/family (don't want to always lay it on them). Problem is, logically I know what he's saying is bs, but emotionally I'm actually starting to feel bad for him and miss him...

He says he doesn't remember saying he wants to "off himself" or remember the details of the episode. He described watching the episode and said he looked like something from The Exorcist . And that I share some responsibility and contributed to it because I am on his case and not calm enough. I...

Thanks everyone for your comments. I haven't seen him since and need to leave him. I talked to him last night and he blames me partially for triggering the PTSD episode and also says that he PTSD episodes are not within his control. He told me to remember when we talked to our therapist about me...

Your response really touched me (getting all emotional reading it) maybe because you said you tend to be like me in relationships. Thank you for your feedback.

Thank you, this is extremely helpful and makes more "gut sense." I have trouble setting boundaries and knowing when to draw the line, so establishing clear boundaries and knowing what is/isn't my responsibility really takes the edge of my anxiety as if makes me feel more in control of my life...

Logically I know this...what you said... Logically I know he's responsible for his own behavior, yet the emotional side of me keeps asking myself if he would have done this if I hadn't started arguing with him about our relationship, and that always gets me. He may not have. However, he...

My bf and I have been dating around 5 years. Almost 2 years ago (it'll be 2 years in November), he was badly beaten by a dirty undercover cop. I was there and witnessed the whole thing - he comes from a good family and has never been in trouble before. The incident was horrible and he has some...