Recent content by Miss Lissa

I'm here today after a rough one, but I'd still call our relationship a success. Is it what I always dreamed of? No. Does everyone understand? No. We spend a lot of time apart, in separate countries, actually. But its been over 10 years and I still love him and know that he loves me. Whats the...

Just a simple rant today... on my birthday. We are apart right now (have found that separate homes works for us for "break" periods) and this year he remembered a card, but it hasnt arrived yet so he's annoyed. He's been away since mid-January so I'm really starting to look forward to our 10...

I have to second (or is it fourth at this point?) SweetPea... Abuse, especially physical abuse, is not acceptable. He should be strong enough to walk away himself and do some work to get better for you, if there's any hope at all. My man has diagnosed PTSD and while he can get distant and...

My sufferer goes through these ups and downs... it's up to you, really. I try to make him go on trips by himself, he also kicked me out of thr house one day every weekend "for me", but I wasn't as keen on that. Lol A balance of both us helpful.

I'm sitting here in tears and just want to reach out for some support... My boyfriend/partner is a sufferer and he's been away visiting family overseas and "getting his head straight". I support him and encouraged him to go figure out what he wants. Really it's a matter of figuring out if we'll...

Urgh! I can relate. My sufferer is sad and fruatrated with something I said right now so it means that I can't touch him at all. I live for touch (it's totally my love language) and he won't even let me rub his head to calm him like I used to. Says he's tired. Says I know how to push his...

Oh PurpleMunchkin! I was thinking about you the other day. I think we discovered that our men are both London Bombings first responders. I sympathize. Every time I hear of a terror attack I flinch and wait for the response from my sweetie. Usually rants about how stupid the government is and...

Wow! It's very hard not to judge. There are some things that are worth putting up with (low moods, etc.), but this financial stuff is a biggie. And it sound a bit manipulative to me, whether that's her intent or not. Even if her behaviour is a consequence of her PTSD, it's still inconsiderate...

Thanks Sighs. You're right. We've spoken again about kids and our general agreement is that we'd both like them, but not until we have some modicum of control (or coping strategies) over his PTSD. I will give him credit for that: he's very responsible and doesn't go into things lightly.

I'm so glad I found this thread today after an argument with my sweetie yesterday because I rolled my eyes at something he said. For once, I was too tired to walk on eggshells and rolled my eyes as he went on a small rant, which led to a small argument about me being disrespectful. Granted...

You're very very right on that front re: children. It's hard because he blows hot and cold on the topic depending on where he is in his PTSD cycle. Thanks for the input. I've already done a lot of thinking and I need to do even more re: the fact it might not happen. Counselling is a good idea...

Thanks for all the advice. My man can be a bit moody, but definitely not a baby. But they do love things a certain way, don't they. We've had a super stressful few days, which are never good. Going to see the tax accountant tomorrow, so we'll see where that leaves us and how it goes. We're...

You're both so right. I know he loves me and your words are reassuring. I have realized that I do need to give up some of my childhood fantasies of the perfect weddings and picket fences. I want him. I want to be with him. I guess my marriage hang up is more to do with the fact that he was...

Hi everyone! Thanks for all the wonderfully supportive and informative articles here - it really makes it easier for me to know that I'm not alone in my supporter struggles. My sufferer is going through a rough patch right now: winter is here, the Canada Revenue Agency is giving him grief...

I feel like we all keep posting similar things, which is a bit of a relief in itself for me: knowing that most supporters have a similar experience. I'm back on here because my sufferer sweetie is going through a tough time. As with most of you, it seems to ebb and flow, sometimes worse than...