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I ended up mailing a letter to her last Tuesday, and it arrived within a day or two. Pretty much all I said was I'm not asking for a reply at all, don't expect one, I know we can't be together, I'm not trying to win you back and I accept that we can't be together. I said here's what I felt...

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Wow, that's incredibly difficult. I'm truly sorry for that...and I hope you are recovering yourself too. I guess I'll have to accept that I cannot be in her life right now, and maybe, just maybe she will reach out to me in the future to rekindle things and maybe try again. I doubt that though...

Apologies for that. I meant to reference your comment that they're rational and logic decision making is different than mine, for your explanation that it's because of the trauma.

I can definitely believe that to be true, and it's a good hypothesis. She have felt fearful of me and my actions and needing to be validated and felt safe from someone she does not know much about can make her feel better. I guess I'll honor that. That said, I feel really bad I flipped on her...

You're right, I do feel betrayed, hurt, and angry. Which can sum up why I flipped on her when I found out she had a new boyfriend,. I do feel that she was sincere with it as she self harmed herself because of the stress and panic that was going on. But her being with another guy is just tough...

You're right, I do feel betrayed, hurt, and angry. Which can sum up why I flipped on her when I found out she had a new boyfriend,. I do feel that she was sincere with it as she self harmed herself because of the stress and panic that was going on. But her being with another guy is just tough...

Wow you're 100% correct. A lot of her decisions in the past she mentioned she does think many sense and still justifies them passionately. I am going to work on letting this go. And you're right, she'll never tell me her thought process behind it. And I won't hear from her ever again as I...

I'm so sorry to hear about your experience. That's really rough. I can see myself becoming obsessive and will look into your resources as a means to help myself. I appreciate your support... I am going to look into therapists around my area and start going to help me heal.

I won't reach out to her at all unless she messages me in the future, which I strongly and highly doubt will happen.

And yes, I'm going to see a therapist soon. Any recommendations on what kind of therapist I should see?

Thank you for your reply and I appreciate your insight from your experience. Given the situation and updates in the comments, and the fact that she decided to be with a new guy days after dumping me, and said she doesn't want to be with me, is it worth trying to reconnect a month or two later...

The most difficult part I'm accepting and healing from is the fact that she told me she would be single and work on herself and heal when she dumped me, as she said she can't be with anyone right now. Then, days after, I find out that, her actions speak louder than her words and is with someone...

a bullet I have to bite*.