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Thank you so much for this. I think it's just been in my experiences where I tend to connect with people who are very traumatized in the hopes that can understand me but it may just be that a lot of people really haven't been through what have gone through so it's harder to relate. Because it...

So I know PTSD and trauma are tough things to deal with, but I have noticed that I am hesitant to get close to people because I don't want to hear about their problems. From my experiences, most of my friendships/relationships have revolved around the other person's issues trumping everything...

@Movingforward10 : I regularly got diagnosed depression, anxiety, adjustment disorder but therapists were hesitant to say PTSD because I didn't have "recurrent nightmares", my affect was muted, and I didn't show "enough" signs of externalized trigger behavior or something. Unbeknownst to them...

Hi there, I realized something. I felt like I didn't fit in with the majority of the trauma survivors because most of my trauma came from people who weren't trying to be nefarious so my experiences constantly got brushed off or spun in a positive way. I have tried to be positive and push...

Uhhh ok. I don't want to change her. I just got overly excited to possibly make a new friend but didn't know how to react that one aspect or what to make of it. I was drawn to her because she presents herself as someone who's mission is to help others heal from trauma, studying with some of the...

Ahhh. Interesting. That makes sense. She just seems to do this both in group and private conversations. And since I am new to the group, I don't feel like it's my place to redirect the conversation or halt it. Her friends seem to either awkwardly acknowledge it or ignore it. Its as if, like...

Yes. Seems pretty accurate. She seems to have a big chip on her shoulder because the mental health system/legal system/mother/men have repeatedly let her down so she has a really negative view of psychology as a whole, understandably so. Understood. It wasn't my intention to shut her down, just...

So I met a new friend... she seemed like she had an admirable goal of helping others with trauma... it's her life's mission. But it seems like her traumatic background defines her so much so that she awkwardly interjects some reference to her trauma every 10 minutes or so in a group setting and...

I can relate. Strangely, since I created this thread, I realized how much I downplay my experiences, because I didn't want to deal with the emotions. But my soul still wanted to be acknowledged so I was just being a walking contradiction. I realized that I was probably physically abused as a...

Yes, this is very well put for @mytearsaregenuine situation. It does sound very difficult.

@Changing4Best and @Ronin After exploring my thoughts with the therapist, I realized that I just was in denial of physical abuse. I mean my perpetrators weren't trying to be malicious, but they were young, burnt out and lacked proper training. And because I had the most needs of all the...

You're completely right. I was incredibly angry and I lashed out. Thank you for talking some sense into me.

UPDATE: I wrote a couple of open letters on a forum my ex frequents and he sends me a long-winded video message of how he's terrified me exposing him because I know about him than most. I replied with a message, saying work on being a better person and if not, people will eventually see through...

Yes, great point! There is definitely a fine line. It is easy to go down the rabbit hole. The issues I mentioned above are things I have struggled with since as long as I can remember even before I got adopted so it's hard to tell sometimes if it is related to trauma, personality quirks, or both.

For the longest time, I have wondered if certain triggers indicate a forgotten trauma but the trouble is I can't remember anything specifically that would cause such strong triggers. Most of my desensitization has been guess best hypotheses and it gets frustrating. My gut tells me some things...