Recent content by Olivia2016

Yep, completely "normal". Some people go fine though life, communicate with coworkers and friends, but shut off the closest family members. It's all about emotions: the more emotional it is, the more likely they will shut it off, can't handle. Does it make a situation better? Not really, because...

I have a different perspective on PTSD and change of personality. I have been with my husband for 5 years before that incident happened that resulted in his PTSD. He did not have PTSD when we met and for 5 years after we met, and even for some time after the incident. I saw a gentle, caring...

It makes you feel non-emotional about your past experiences. Anything you repeat many times and live through many times loses its emotional impact. This is why it is helpful to dwell on traumatic experiences despite the difficulties.

That was not quite what happened there. First, there was no indication that he had PTSD. Second, it looked like his decision to move on. Third, she did talk to him about processing the memories, grieving, etc. she never said he had to just move on. Finally, he did go to therapy, which he did not...

No, it's not a good idea. Everyone , who tried to do this (as I did before I understood), would find that timing is very important, and during the isolation trying to establish boundaries or having serious discussions just pushes the sufferer away more. In fact, I am pretty sure in my case...

How about just letting her know (text, email, if she is not answering your calls) that you are there for her and waiting for her, but giving her some room? Not calling, not trying to have serious conversations, just giving her signs that she can come back any time? I found that pushing...

I think this is wise. I am in a similar situation, and i feel that discussing anything right now is like talking to a wall. It is all about timing. Timing can make or break it.

Good for you. I am happy you had a good communication before the hell broke loose (if it did). In my case, discussing boundary or anything is not an option now. He is just not in a state to discuss anything right now, he is in a zone where i have no entrance, and he does not see the reality...

I don't think setting boundaries works well during this stage of an episode. I think it would be wise to leave him alone and just wait to see what happens without expressing any expectations. When a person does not reply to your messages, it is not the time for setting the boundaries or any...

Eve, absolutely! We all need to work on understanding each other's perspective, and this is why we need to hear both sides. I did not mean to say that Tx should not listen to what sufferers have to say. It is extremely important for the supporters to understand what sufferers feel and think and...

Sure, absolutely, we are all interested in what sufferers feel and what they think. Their point of view is precious and irreplaceable. That is not what I meant. I just noticed that many sufferers often give their PTSD-tainted perspective and advise to everyone to leave their sufferer alone and...

I think ptsd makes them lose the ability to understand that we are happy and appreciative of time spent together. We have been very happy with my husband for seven fantastic years, but now he just keeps repeating that i need to move on. They have no hope for the future, and they are convinced...

I understand most of these episodes are caused by feeling inadequate and being unable to feel and express the feelings like the other person does in a relationship. That is what my husband said, that he just can't handle being so inadequate and being unable to feel and do what is expected from...

TX123, Many of us here are going through similar or identical situation. We all hear the same words: I am not worthy of love; I feel inadequate; I cannot be in a relationship, and I have made peace with it; you deserve better; you should move on; don't wait for me; etc. This is a typical PTSD...

Tibbles, sorry to hear all this. Don't torture yourself and don't try to find an answer in others' stories. As much as I understood reading about PTSD, it's unpredictable. Some people never come back, some go back and forth, some come back and stay, some recover, some can maintain, some never...