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    Relationship Please, can someone who has dealt with being married to a rape victim help me?

    This is a tricky one and there may not be an easy answer. Personally, I’ve always been the “wear my heart in my sleeve” type. As a supporter, I had to relearn approaching my sufferer in the way that HE needed to deal with his emotions. Whereas I would want to talk about everything that I felt, I...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Update! We talked and I followed everyone's suggestion of being firm, making clear that my pup is a non-negotiable and that if she wasn't allowed here I was not going to stay here, asking my fiance about his specific concerns about her and having her here, and talking about the longterm and...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    When she is with me, we have our routine set and she is a good girl for the most part. She likes to sleep in but after my morning shower she FINALLY gets out of bed, I give her her breakfast then let her out while I'm getting breakfast. We then go for a mile plus walk and then she naps for a few...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    OMG, if there was a heart button, I'd definitely heart that pic! So precious! What is her name? This is my girl. :)
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Surprisingly, he has mentioned getting another dog in the future. He just really wants it trained a certain way (ex. no dogs on furniture) and wants to be able to have a say in which puppy is picked, but that is a very valid point and part of my concern!
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    No worries! I NEVER use a crate for her and she definitely gets enough exercise. We have our routine and we start the day with a one plus mile walk (even in frigid weather) after which she usually naps while I study and then we follow up with some playtime and more time in the yard. She is...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    That makes a lot of sense! I hope that we can come to some common ground for the short-term as well as the long-term. I don't think I have ever asked him what would need to change for him to be okay with her right now so that is a very good point and place to start the conversation...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    No worries, it was not taken that way at all! I appreciate you guys holding me and my SO accountable and in keeping me honest :)
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Yeah, it's a discussion that we have had multiple times as well. He has had family dogs but never any dogs that were HIS dogs or that he was particular close to. I think the one he was closest to actually died very suddenly and unexpectedly and so my SO is often concerned that given how much of...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Yeah, that's what I kind of feel like sometimes too. In my previous discussions with him when I've asked him why he thinks later would be different in terms of accepting her (because she certainly isn't going anywhere!), he has expressed that when we are at that point, she will be older and more...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Thank you! That is sometimes how I feel and something I've struggled with a lot. It seems unfair of him sometimes to ask me to make the drive because he can't (or won't) come to me and then on top of that to ask me to leave my dog at my parents' place because he can't (or won't) find a place...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    Thank you so much! That makes a lot of sense. It sounds like your relationship with your dog is very much like mine when I'm at my own place. Usually she comes most places with me and if she can't come, it's generally not something I'm interested in spending my free time on. I've definitely had...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    With that said, maybe I can more strongly show him to that I am not the only one who thinks this way about a pet and that she is my non-negotiable as other people have also been non-negotiable about their pets! Thank you!!!
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    He is not all bad but thank you for validating how I am feeling. I’ve discussed the “coming to me” issue with him many times and it’s something he has recently stated that he will try to work on. He is also well aware that my fur baby is not going to be leaving my life and if there is ever an...
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    Relationship Emotional Support Dog Separation During Isolation

    No, I did not say she is a service dog. She is an emotional support animal and I clearly understand the difference having dedicated 7 years post-college of my life to studying animal welfare and health. For her prescription, I sought the advice of one of the 50 leading board-certified animal...
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