Recent content by Sephira

Long distance works for us now- my son is in high school. The plan is for me to move there after he graduates. We see each other. A few times a year. He’s smart, intelligent, funny, kind- and worth it. I just am trying to get through this rough patch.

He isn’t coming home. There is no projected return date. This is his job, every day for the last 7 years. He likes what he does. He renews the contract every time it comes up. He has a house, 4 cars there, friends, a maid. He lives in a gated community in cul de sac. There is no war zone, not...

Let me clarify. He is active special forces- as in, he can be deployed. He hasn’t been deployed for well over a year and does intelligence analyst stuff in an office. He is a PMC- there is no wive’s club or any other support group. He’s been trained exactly as a special forces member- sorry I...

I completely agree. I have some soul searching to do.

I just got off the phone will him. He says his professionally trained therapist says I’m a major negative issue in his life and she thinks we should break up. That he is managing his PTSD well and it’s all me. Apparently, she thinks he’s fine. If that’s what she said, he is either straight lying...

I’d love to talk to him about his stressors, but any talk of relationships or feelings upset him. It’s like a currency system. Like every good day I earn a unit of trust, and I need to save up my units to get a chat about feelings or the relationship. Then it needs to be at the right time and...

Joey, I think you’re right. I probably was lashing out a little. He frequently makes comments like that, and it gets on my nerves. And I was having a bad day, and today I just didn’t feel like saying that I was just talking to myself. Honestly, this whole scenario never occurred to me as leading...

No clue, Sweetpea. I hope not. I’m by no means perfect, I admit some resentment has crept in over the years that I’m really trying to deal with. But I am so used to tiptoeing, I try to be very careful to speak to him only when I’m not upset with him in any way. But I’m human, and bad days creep...

I’m reaching my limit- believe me, I’ve thought about it. I may get to that point. I think I’m trying to hold on to see what things look like after some therapy

Romantic. He’s stationed in the Middle East, I’m in the US. Usually we ebb and flow like any relationship. That’s why I post so infrequently. But lately, he’s always threatening to break up. It’s exhausting.

He says it’s just me who causes him problems- everyone else is fine. I am just a “ not nice person”. I am trying so so hard and he’s using his therapy like a weapon. It feels like he’s saying” My T thinks you’re a problem too.” And the T only knows what he says. I dunno, it just sucks. And he’s...

Oh Lord, guys. I need some help. Haven’t posted in ages so I’ll give you some background. My boyfriend is active special forces with C-PTSD. He just started going to the therapist again ( he had stopped but things were getting so bad he knew he needed to recommit to going). He’s hard to be with...

Hi everyone, I have a question for long term supporters. After years of balking and managing his PTSD himself, my sweets has finally entered therapy. I know that the start of therapy is rough...but how is life with your sufferer after he or she has been in therapy for a while? I'm so used to...

He sent me an email saying we're a "fair weather couple". That we aren't compatible when we're both stressed out. I think it might be good we're taking a break because he'd say awful things if he got mad. He'd hurt my heart. We'd break up. But fair weather couple implies that I'm toxic to him...

Hi Texcat. I haven't seen a therapist in ages because he and I were so good. I'll make an appointment, but it'll take a few weeks to get in I'm afraid.