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It wasn’t until my GP wrote me a referral to a therapist and it said “he emotionally, physically and financially abuses her” that I realised that putting me in debt by threatening a meltdown was yet another form of abuse. His PTSD causes feelings. But sufferers choose how they behave. Read...

Lundy is very clear. Abuse is abuse. People can be alcoholics AND abusive. People can have mental health problems AND be abusive. It’s not an excuse or even a reason. Abusers continue to abuse because it WORKS. What you choose to do is, of course, up to you. What I want to get across more than...

“He doesn’t hit me” is not the criterion for determining whether a relationship is abusive. My ex wouldn’t allow me to sleep, or to eat or shower. He manipulated me into taking out numerous loans in my name to buy things he wanted. I told myself it wasn’t abuse because he didn’t hit me. Then he...

I’m sorry you are going through this. He has threatened to kill you and he has punched walls etc. You can stop wondering if he might get violent. He is already violent. This is abuse. So is not letting you sleep. My abusive ex (who also happened to have PTSD - by which I mean PTSD was not the...

Head. Desk.

@Sweetpea76 - you’re awesome! I have so much respect for you! @Blue34 - hugs to you! My only advice is not to make excuses for his behaviour. If he’s being an arse then whether he has ptsd or not he’s being an arse. If your basic needs are not being met in the relationship it doesn’t make you a...

Don’t be too quick to blame everything on ptsd. Maybe he’s a habitual liar. If that’s the case, how do you feel about that?

I spent 5 yrs with a man who’s behaviour was very similar. I was on medication and seeing a therapist and was still suicidal. He has combat PTSD - properly diagnosed and confirmed for medical discharge from the Army. He is also a malignant narcissist with psychopathic features - diagnosed to me...

@Sideways - fingers crossed this weekend brings relief. We are a little disheartened by all the media talk of "the recovery". We aren't ready to talk recovery = we're still under threat!

The plane crash was very near. There are floral tributes in the park in town. Australians certainly feel the weight of the sacrifice made so far from home. RIP. Fires still surround us. We were stuck in Canberra for a few hours on the weekend when they closed the road. We are not out of the...

Yes. We are still - literally - safe within a ring of fire. Milder weather predicted for next week or so which means they can work on containment. Thank you for checking! x

We remain safe. Weather has improved. No Immediate threat. Only 2 months of bushfire season to go...