Recent content by Spacecadetess

Hi there, it sounds like your friend is trying to be helpful but is coming across very forcefully. If she is not a qualified registered therapist then I would avoid allowing her to help you. cPTSD treatment is a fragile step - by - step process.. you must first be stabilised and in the right...

I think accusations like that within 5/6 months are not great.. she may have her own bout of issues though. We all say things we regret later, if this is a recurring thing though then that's a problem. I think if you have cPTSD you need someone very stable and resilient.

I feel I have learnt a lot about emotional self-regulation and increased my resiliency being with him. It is hard not to help, be super understanding, be more giving, more available etc.. but none of that will help. Consistency I think is really key. They will eventually come around quicker and...

Everyone is different.. my boyfriend is VERY private. I think it would be better you do not tell him in my opinion. Especially as private details are on the internet about your relationship, so his reaction may not meet your expectations...

Also, your feelings are not unimportant. They are real. This is why this site is so important. Unfortunately many people will not understand how you feel or why you stay. These people usually get divorces.

Haha, sorry I had to laugh because I was in your situation recently. The boyfriend finally called me yesterday after 5 days of sudden distance (after we had an especially intimate conversation..) but I was so exhausted from his unusual behaviour that I missed his call. Then I felt terrible...

I am sure you are not upsetting anyone. He is a therapist after all who wants to be there for you. Hope you are feeling better..

Hi there, I understand you are angry. If you feel you cannot continue to be supportive, consistent and resilient through this then you guys might be better off apart. Good luck

I told my boyfriend about my own upbringing and cried to him about it too. I believe that helped deepen our connection, he also thanked me afterwards for sharing. However, be prepared for this to trigger him. If he starts acting distant, remain consistent but politely set boundaries. Model good...

Thanks a lot for the advice. I really appreciate it.

By the way my name has changed as I just registered

Thanks Anthony, good advice. I will read the stress cup explanation. He has always been so interested in my study. I guess it takes conversation off him as I can talk the socks off many. Plus he is a big introvert. However, I have recently realised I cannot help him, which is hard because I...