Recent content by spidermonkey123

Thanks for this suggestion, my mum and dad weren't together, but maybe I can think of something similar. It's just the logistics, if he goes out he'll have the car so I won't be able to take anything anywhere. I'll probably have to talk to a friend or my dad somehow ahead of time and see if I...

Not very often :( I do pretty much all of that. He might go buy chocolate sometime if he's upset but it would only give me maybe 15 mins. He was working last week doing a few days construction work, but I don't know if or when he'll get more. I'll have an hour next monday if he goes to his...

Thanks for the feedback and perspective guys, this is really helping me to clarify some things. I've emailed my therapist to see if she can see me this week. I am a bit uncertain of how to proceed. He's saying he's sick of this life here with me and would rather be on his own so he doesn't...

We've been together for 13 years, since we were 21. We were young at the start, and it wasn't this bad. I think it's just slowly worsened as we've been through more and more things, like having water slowly boiling around a frog in a pot who doesn't notice it's heating up until suddenly it's...

I think this is probably true, I just keep hoping it won't be that way, or that if I get him a better psychologist they'll help and it'll be OK. I think I'm just struggling a lot with telling anybody else about it when I try to find somewhere to go. We have a rabbit on medication 3x a day that...

I've actually read half of his book, a while back, trying to make sense of this situation. I got confused because of the mental health element. I don't know that he is calculating about it all. He hasn't really ever broken anything of mine etc. He's more self destructive. I understand that much...

When he's having a good day he can be very supportive, they are just few and far between. When he 'comes down' from bad episodes he can sometimes be quite upset at how he's treated me and how hard it has been for me to deal with that and him. Other times it's like the episode never happened...

And his mom's going to die soon, I don't want him to cope with that alone. But I've had to deal with all of this on top of my mom's death, and I barely feel like I've had a chance to breathe since then because of all of this. I'm not sure if I've even processed it properly or not. Sorry for...

I have been trying to have a boundary there. Oh man are you right about everything getting twisted around. Everything I've ever said becomes fuel for the next fire. I've tried saying I need a breather because I'm overwhelmed, I'll be in [another room] etc. and walking out, and now even that's...

He has seen two therapists over the past 2.5 years, but the relationship with his first one got too friendly from the therapist, and the second one just wasn't very effective. We've had a heck of a time finding someone else as everyone in town seems to have a full case load. I finally got him...

Hi there, I have just joined as I'm feeling in a bit of a predicament and I really need some outside perspective on what's happening in my relationship. My partner has PTSD and anxiety from childhood trauma and abuse, retraumatised a few years ago from an incident related to an earlier one. In...