Recent content by spmitchell3

I found a site for supporters that has some good information. You might want to suggest he look at it. I'm just like him - I want to know what my wife is thinking and feeling. But she doesn't share any of it...at least right now because she says she isn't ready. It was really hard on me...

I hope you realize my response was directed at VoiceOfReason and not you specifically. My experience with PTSD is limited as well but I've been doing a lot of reading and talking to professionals so I could understand my wife's situation. And just because I understand why she is the way she...

I'm not trying to rush anything...just understand so that I don't push her. I know not to do that since it can trigger her. She told me she appreciates how patient I've been and that I've been giving her space. But it's hard on me at times and I do wonder if suffers know how challenging their...

Just out of curiosity, what is your experience with PTSD? You're right that just because someone has PTSD, it doesn't give them an excuse to treat someone else badly. Something I read once "Just because your pain is understandable doesn't mean your behavior is acceptable" would seem to apply...

I'd really like to hear from people who have PTSD to help me put things in perspective here. My wife of 15 years was diagnosed with PTSD back in May due to a turbulent childhood with a controlling father who was emotionally/mentally abusive and then a string of abusive boyfriends prior to...

My intent was never to violate her privacy. I just did a summary of what she went through. She doesn't come to this site and by not mentioning her name I feel her anonymity is somewhat safe. Maybe I'm wasting my time...one fear I have is that I'll be here for her in every way I can and know...

It's hard to say if I'm anything like them or not, she hasn't given a lot of information about them. To a great extent, I would say not. For one thing, she told me the reason she was attracted to me was because I didn't and don't blame her for anything, something they did. I'm also not afraid...

She has huge trust issues because every male figure in her life prior to me failed to be there for her. She grew up with a controlling and emotionally manipulative father who eventually committed suicide. Her first boyfriend was emotionally abusive telling her she was overweight when she was...

I don't say them every day...only occasionally. Believe it or not - the main reason I only say it occasionally is because it hurts me to never hear any reassurance from her in return. It hurts to say, "I love you and I'm committed to you" only to hear, "Okay." It would be nice to hear that...

I do this for my wife almost every day as she's leaving for work. Other things I say: "I love you and am 100% committed to you." "I'm in this for the long haul. I believe in you." "I know you may not feel like talking, but I'm here for you when you're ready." "If you're feeling stressed out...

I had a traumatic breakup several years ago and I remember several people telling me to "just get over it and move on." That might be easy for them...but not necessarily easy for anyone else. There are no right or wrong feelings to a situation...our past experiences are what leads us to feel...

For me - I end up feeling alone because my wife, who has PTSD and recently started EMDR therapy, gives the appearance that she doesn't care. If I tell her I'm feeling lonely she shuts down and doesn't say anything. She eventually told me it's not that she doesn't care - she simply doesn't know...

As a spouse/supporter to my wife, who was diagnosed with PTSD caused by childhood and adolescent trauma, I thought I would share what I find to be the most difficult/challenging aspects of being a supporter and see what others have to say. First, without a doubt, the hardest thing for me is to...

Glad I found this thread...I kind of needed it today because I'm feeling some anxiety for some reason. I can totally relate to your stories. My wife was diagnosed with PTSD back in May after 15 years of marriage. The cause of her PTSD is trauma experienced throughout her childhood, adolescent...

Hello everyone. I thought I would share my experience as a supporter. I've read the stories of others and found it helpful so I hope my story is helpful for someone else. I'm not even sure where to begin really. My wife was diagnosed with PTSD in early May, caused by trauma she experienced...