Recent content by tarjei

I won't give any ultimatums. I think you're right about holding off on parenthood. I think I do need to talk to her about my concerns about parenthood. It also worries me that if she at some level seems to see her adult sister as a child, and even her mother as a child, that an actual offspring...

Mods, please move this if it belongs in another section. My fiancée has PTSD and a lot of it has to do with her family - her mother failed to protect her, our of denial, from CSA by a now deceased neighor/authority figure, a (now deceased) uncle who lived under the same roof was a raging...

You have nothing to feel ashamed or guilty about - what happened was not your fault. My partner also suffered CSA and, FWIW, my reactions are anger at her abuser and at the adults who failed to protect her, and a desire to help her heal. I think confiding in your partner and going to therapy are...

Yes, I think normalizing therapy is crucial. I've emphasized that PTSD is not insanity, it's, well, post-traumatic stress. She has said she will try therapy. I don't disagree with what you're saying about boundaries, but the thing is her behaviors tend to be things that she has no conscious...

Thanks for your input, everyone. To clarify a little, I realize I can't and shouldn't play therapist. My fiancée's reluctance to go to therapy seems to be mainly related to fears it could go wrong or make her worse. I realize these fears are not groundless, but her sessions with the psychiatrist...

Thanks for the welcome, everyone! @Florian7051: Yes, unfortunately it's been a rollercoaster. @Sweetpea76: I'll look at those resources, thanks. @Dead Link Removed: We're not in the US, but I hadn't considered that CPTSD might not be officially recognized here, thanks. And you're right, I...

Hi, everyone, my fiancée has been diagnosed by a psychiatrist as having PTSD (he didn't specify whether CPTSD or regular PTSD, but I think the former fits better). She suffered multiple traumatic experiences in childhood and has problems likely arising from that, from serious social difficulties...