Recent content by UrsulaleGuin

Hi Freida, To be honest, that is one of the things that I've been struggling with. But I'm also very aware that my response is a bit extra. Perhaps not in a huge blow out sense, but inwardly I'm dying a little. The moods have given me an abusive aftertaste, mostly because he's aware of the...

Hey, that's a very interesting way to look at it. That would have never occurred to me, thanks. I mostly have been feeling as if this is just another relationship fail. Epically. I don't want to get into all the details, but it's true that I don't always believe he has my/our best interests at...

Thank you everyone for your replies. It meant a lot. And it has helped me feel more understood. I've never spoken to people like this before, and to be honest it's a relief. I'm obviously still heartbroken. But after thinking it through today, I think I shouldn't be with someone that triggers...

Thank you Rani, Yes, I think if someone's been in various relationships where the 'moods' have caused at least discomfort. To the point where he'd bring it up himself as a thing that could be a possible issue for us. Then what does he have to gain by keeping his mindset as is? Is that what you...

Perhaps you're right. People around me have told me as much. I'm actually taking the next few days to think about that. If my PTSD was the only problem, then I think we could work through it. Thank you for your reply <3

Hello fellow Ursula reader! :) That makes me happy. Yeah, me too. I get nervous when people do that. I don't know why he does that, what he likes about the moods. He says that when he's alone, he loves to just zone out and stare into space. I get that. Of course I do. But 1) that's not the...

Hello, Thank you for your reply. I've tried that with him too: to have a few days of agreed on 'no contact' (max 3 days), to recuperate and clear my head. My version of a healthy 'retreat'. But that almost resulted in a break up too. He was very hurt by my needing that. He had withdrawn...

Hi Survivor3. Well... He's the warmest most outgoing silly person one moment, and then due to being overwhelmed or tired or other things, he can just shut down in a way. He goes completely silent, withdraws and gives no more physical affection or reassurance. I've commented that it feels like...

Hello Oak Tree, Thank you for sharing your story. I think it's exceptional that you found your way to this place for support. I've known about my abuse and PTSD for years, and I've only just started here. I just want to offer some sympathy. You must be going through so much right now. Not...

Hello there everyone, New to this forum. I'm going through a bit of an emotional moment and I thought it would help to get my story out and hear what other PTSD people have to say about it. Diagnosed PTSD from childhood trauma and ADHD. Then I've had some very bad experiences the past two...