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The fact that you can identify and articulate it so well is a huge indicator that you are well on your way to harnessing it. We had to put down my horse last weekend as he broke his leg in a paddock accident. I now need to decide which of our "spare" horses to work with. Neither is ideal, but...

Could you ask her what level of support she needs? Could you talk about what level of support you are able to give? I would be concerned about you losing your newfound stability and jumping back on the roller coaster.

I agree with @Sweetpea76. Take the moral high ground. Mail all his stuff back. If you can, pay back the money you spent on his account (less the cost of postage of his belongings). Personally, I would then ghost him. If he ever tried to contact me again he would hear nothing but crickets...

Police station is a great idea! That way you have impartial people with training to intervene if necessary.

Despite his PTSD his actions and decisions are still his. His decision not to get treatment. His action to put his hands on you. You bear no responsibility for his actions and decisions. You had to leave. How many times can you be bruised and battered? No-one deserves that.

Right about now. I've put up with some pretty awful behaviour from my veteran but if I found out he was regularly seeing an ex who he knows still has feelings for him - I'd be gone so fast his head would spin. And he would never hear from me again.

Hi and welcome. Well done for recognising there is a problem and reaching out for help. As the daughter of a combat vet and the partner of a combat vet, I want to challenge some of your thinking. I'm hoping that you will recognise this as constructive and helpful rather than an attack. This...

I would still reach out to your local DV shelter or counselling service. Therapists and GPs may or may not have experience in dealing with DV - particularly as far as the practical logistics of ending things. Leaving is when things get even more dangerous. :hug:

It could be PTSD. Many sufferers isolate when they are overwhelmed. Read up on the stress cup if you haven't already. PTSD is a cycle. He may have thought he was over it, but sadly there is no cure for PTSD. He may come back. He may not. It really is him not you.

Sigh! You'd think 4 years in I'd be better at these. I just can't seem to bite my tongue when he is deliberately pushing me for a reaction.

Sometimes mental health professionals can become so used to talking about mental health issues that they forget there is still stigma attached to them outside that field. I wouldn't bother to try to discuss PTSD in general with her because she is always going to pull the "I know better" card on...