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Oh and here's another thing he keeps saying "I don't want to keep rehashing the past." Ok but I have a lot of confusion about the past, so it's not helping either of us not to talk about it. But..fine. I just have to accept the uncertainty and go with my own assumptions and interpretations.

Yup. Walls suck. And just like I see in so many posts on here..he keeps trying to keep the door open to us being "friends" down the road, once the emotions have cooled. It's like he doesn't wanna lose me, but is so scared of being too close.

Thanks, everybody, for the replies. I finally did get a reply back from him, this morning. I dunno. It's frustrating because I feel he hasn't understood my motives at all. I feel he's also locked in some psychoanalysis mode, which makes it impossible for him to see my heart. It's like he just...

I'm not counting on hearing anything from him. His dad was on my Facebook friend list and hadn't defriended me or anything, after all this. In fact, I had a birthday fundraiser, and his dad donated $60 to it a week ago. Then tonight I happened to notice his dad's name was no longer on the...

It's 2 days til my birthday..I have heard nothing from him..and I am incredibly depressed :(

You're probably right. Although everything was great on his birthday. I tried to make it as special as possible, to at least try to overcome the awful symbolic significance of it. We travel in the same artistic circles. The thought has occurred to me, how will I handle it if I run into him...

Not really. It's different, or seems different when I see other people's posts. Seems like it lasts about 6 months, and then the partner with PTSD becomes distant..starts pushing the other person away. I've never experienced that before, except for once with a guy I dated who was on a bunch of...

I feel like he cut me out first, by going cold and distant out of the blue, right when we were doing great and getting closer..then deciding I wasn't worth replying to, despite me becoming increasingly agitated by him ignoring me. Even if I hadn't been triggered and broke up with him over...

Still nothing from him :( Sometimes I just can't understand how he could cut me out of his life like this. When I really think about it, I get angry, honestly. I try not to, but I can't help it. Today I met up with the guy my friend kinda set me up with. He seemed nice. I didn't feel any...

Here's the thing. The very fact that you're still posting about her suggests you haven't quite settled into the friend mode, emotionally. You're still spending so much time thinking about HER. When you should be thinking about you and moving on. You might need to move out, just to help you do...

Also, I don't think he's isolating. I think he's burying himself in his work. He's a filmmaker and playwright, and right around the time he told me we should move on, he was juggling a lot of projects.

No, he knows. The time that I met up w my ex to try to work things out, post breakup, he said his parents had talked about me coming for dinner. So he told them "well now we're breaking up." And apparently they said, bring her anyway. They seemed very positive about our relationship. That was...

Thank you so much. I really didn't want to make plans for my birthday, in case he came around. But you guys convinced me to. :) Thanks for all the support. Wanna know a funny thing? I never met his dad, although he had told me his parents were supportive of our relationship. His dad friended...

YUP. It's been 2 months since I've seen him and I am still doing this. I still haven't heard a peep from him, and I just don't understand it. I thought I meant more to him than this. Meanwhile, I've been chatting w another guy..this is a guy a friend met over the weekend, and she thought we'd...

Good for you for leaving. I was with an emotionally abusive man for a year. It's not all that easy to leave. I commend you for doing what's best for you and your child.

Thank you!

BG for those who missed it: dated a great guy for 6 months. Fell deeply in love. He said he loved me too. He had past trauma he was in therapy for--abusive ex who killed herself on his birthday after they broke up. After the typical "honeymoon" period, he got cold and distant. After a week of...

I can relate. I have definitely felt like my ex hates me as well. He got all distant after 6 months. (His issue is that he had an abusive exgf who killed herself on his birthday, after they broke up.) He definitely was triggered by me, and he projected his ex onto me. So sad when the timing is...

"Right person, wrong time." Story of my life, sigh :(

Hmm, I can't say I know either one of you but, with just the brief details you've given..this sounds like a "cake and eat it too" situation..on her end, I mean. She still wants you to be there for her but w/out the relationship.

Wow that meditation SURE is helping her /sarcasm Yeah, sounds like she's sabotaging things for some reason. When you first said you guys would still be living together, I was wondering how on earth that was gonna work. I've tried living with an ex after a breakup, and it isn't long before...

Do you have good friends whom you can vent to, and who can give you objective advice about your bf's behavior? My relationship ended when my ex went incommunicado on me. Decided not to reply to my IM msgs for a day, even though I could see that he'd read them. This was after a week where he was...

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Hey Fleabug..just thought I'd see how you're doing. I am still struggling. I think of him every day. I think I'm gonna reach out to him, end of this month. It will have been nearly 2 months since I've seen him, and a month since we chatted online. May 24 is also the day he first friended me...

I refuse to see a psychiatrist after my horrific experiences. They prescribed a drug for me that almost killed me. So no..I will never see a psychiatrist ever again. The only thing that saved me from my anxiety disorder was cognitive behavioral therapy. Psychiatrists just want to put you on meds.