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Hi Gibbs, welcome to the forum! I don't think he does feel deserted, quite the opposite. He found my love and support too much; he was unable to reciprocate, he felt guilty about bringing me down and not being able to meet my needs. He needed out, in order to focus on getting well. So this...

Is this ever an ok thing to do?? I'm thinking not, and yet I really want to send the following to my vet: "Hope the new year brings you strength, courage, inner peace and the success and happiness you deserve. Your friend, always xxx" Is it ok to send him that? Even though he's asked for no...

I'm grateful for my family and friends. I'm grateful for the roof over my head and a job that pays the bills and brings me fulfillment. I'm grateful for the wonderful people on this forum who have taught me so much about PTSD. I'm grateful for having met my sufferer, even though I've now lost...

Ok, so firstly, GOOD to hear you're not contemplating suicide. That's reassuring to hear. Well done for reaching out here. Even if you feel physically alone in your current situation, you're not alone in this, remember that. Thanks to the wonders of technology, we are all here with you, ready...

Hello Magen, First of all, what is your situation? Have you been diagnosed with PTSD? Are you undergoing any form of treatment? It sounds like you have issues that need confronting and dealing with, so I hope you're receiving professional help to do that. As a supporter of someone who has...

Oh, and I meant Eggshells, not Meatballs!!! :laugh:

Ah thanks for your interest, yes happy to share. But rather than repeat myself here and make this thread all about me, here's a link to my initial introduction which fills you in on what brought me here Supporter - "the Trauma Of War Doesn't End When The Guns Stop Firing" And for more current...

Thanks so much for sharing this old thread @tlc - was such an interesting read for me, lots to relate to, especially franciemarnie's story about caring so much that you lose your own identity - really resonates! And Abstract's words of advice gave lots of food for thought. The more I read on...

@Catlady and @Olivia2016 - what happened in both your cases? Did you have happy endings?? Only just discovered this thread - it's been so useful to me but it's ended too soon! What's the latest news??

I feel your pain. I'm in the same boat. It's tough. It's not fair. But just have to keep telling myself, whatever I'm suffering is nothing compared with what he's going through. What's the latest?? Hope you're ok xx

@boodle and @Jensen - I feel your pain and torment so much!! Each time I read posts like this, that I could so easily have written, it fills me with strength to know that I'm not the only one living this hell and heartache. But equally, it fills me with sadness and despair to think there are so...

I love that analogy of being a light house, shining out for them from afar. It's mad to think this time last year, I didn't even know he existed. And now I can't imagine my world without him. But I just have to enjoy and be thankful for what I had with him, take it as a chapter of my life, and...

Thank you @Junebug :hug: xx

@JM318 "I think it's best to step out of the picture and stop working on the relationship, so that he can work on himself... getting the help he needs is more important, even if our paths don't cross again." Well said. Takes strength to recognise and accept it though, eh? Gosh these words hit...

@tiredtexan Good point!

I think, on reflection, although I've explained PTSD to my Mum as best you can explain it to someone wothout having them actually experience it, maybe I haven't made it clear enough what I actually need/expect from her in terms of support. A mother's natural instinct I suppose, when she hears me...

Glad I stumbled upon this thread, it's been a great read and reassuring to hear I'm not the only one battling the 'well-intended' but unhelpful negativity of family and friends, particularly my Mum. Yes, she's only looking out for me and doesn't want to see me hurt like I've been in the past...

@medley29 So true, well said! :tup: x (I know this response is over a year late, but I've only just seen this!)

@Richie - did something go wrong sending that message? Looks like it ended abruptly with a quote that didn't appear?? :confused:

@Richie - Good for you! :tup: You're right, it's never too late! I'm nearly 37 and contemplating where on earth my career is going and whether to start again (I've been a teacher all my working life, but last year decided to give up the workload and stress and become a teaching assistant. I'm...

Arrghhhh, don't say that! This is what I'm fearing! He REALLY needs to find job satisfaction pronto before I lose the will to live with him! He's had so many knock backs though. He had his heart set on going back in the army a few months ago, but because of the medical discharge they won't take...

@Friday - thanks so much for the link to that article, was an interesting and helpful read. @Sweetpea76 - my vet isn't injured, so pain isn't an issue. But yes, I agree with what you say about not needing to make much effort to initiate anything to know whether he's in the mood or not - mine...

Thanks both! :hug:

Hello new forum friends! This is a plea to those of you in long-term relationships (particularly if you or your other half's PTSD is combat-related, because that is what my sufferer has, so you may be able to relate better). I need support/advice/guidance/opinions/a glimmer of...

Hello everyone! So glad I've found this forum. Here's a brief outline of what has brought me here... My other half has PTSD. He left the army nearly 5 years ago (medically discharged, due to messing up his back and hips) and suffered depression at the time, his marriage broke down and he...