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My visit to Combat Stress went well. What a fantastic place. They're going to have me in to stay for a couple of weeks in August. They do a six week intensive programme or some 2 week programmes. It looks like I'll be there for a 2 week session as my Psychologist is ex-Combat Stress and is...

I think she's actually getting worse not better or maybe I am just seeing clearer these days. I'm not sure She's no longer coming to Combat Stress tomorrow. That's a shame because she had always said that she would. She's been itching to get out of it for a week now but I told her it had to be...

I did point out that I was just making the best out of the situation she's put me in. Unfortunately, my anger management blew a fuse and although I didn't get angry I did tell her that I was more than happy for the divorce to go ahead now. She jumped on the "happy" and said that she was glad...

Advice needed again. I have been to see houses today for when this house is sold. I spoke to my wife who wanted to know how much, how big etc. I was vague with my answers as it's not really her business any more. All my financial details are disclosed but this is now my future. She became...

I must admit, I hadn't picked up on that. I don't think she's trying to turn the kids against me but I would have to say that she's not stable. She is a good mother though. I wouldn't take that away from her. Whether she's the most suitable parent at the moment....mmmm errrr. I think she's...

And her leaving has relieved me of so much stress. They know. They also know that it was her decision. I think they'll end up hating her for it. All I can do is offer a place that we can have fun in with less rules and more spontaneity. No you didn't read it wrong. Those were her exact...

Thanks for the support. It really helps. Contacting the kids is still a bit up and down and I'd love advice. My (ex) wife doesn't want me to ring every day. Neither does she want them to have a set timetable in case the kids start feeling that it's a chore. I've been speaking with them every...

Calming down doesn't even come close to describing how I've been. Totally calm, like an enormous stress has gone from my life would be a better description. I still worry about the impact on the kids. My post on 8th Feb referred to a dark and unresolved past. I feel she has transferred the...

Thank you for asking. It's kind. I've actually been a lot better since she moved out. A lot of my stress has gone. I was discussing this with my T and she said she was a trigger. She was amazed at the difference in me after a week. I seem to have turned my corner and am actually enjoying being...

I feel I have been quite calm since she left. Apart from the immediate departure. I guess I now have to find my routine which hopefully will fall into place. I'm not used to being on my own. I react totally differently from the way I used to. Before I would get angry and probably say...

I have a couple of problems that I need advice on. My T is currently dealing with anger management with me. I told her that since this blew up 3 months ago I haven't been very angry at all. I've felt too shocked to get angry. She seems puzzled by this. However, I've been trying to remain as...

Thank you. That's exactly what I need right now.

I'm feeling very alone today. There is nobody here. I keep coming across kids toys that have been left behind and each one makes me cry.

They're gone. Howling.

Thank you for your kind words. Unfortunately, this appears to be terminal. There's still real anger being directed at me and I'm definitely being blamed personally. I've had 3 months of hell with this and have been pushed away and totally rejected. She knows that I'm getting treatment now and...

I like hugs. Thank you!

I also have a Psychiatrist coming from the Ministry of Defense in the morning to see about a war pension for the PTSD. I am feeling so numb I can't think of anything to tell him.

Well, the fateful day is tomorrow. I feel like my world is ending. There are no words..

Go go Gizmo! We're all here for you.

Today I finally learned how to use the washing machine!!!

Welcome to the forum. It's an amazing place to let of steam and get advice. Usually helpful, always meant well and always honest!

Whitney, You are probably right. My thinking was that "If only" recognizes a mistake or error. "What if" is uncertainty.

In my view, yes it would. However, I'm being met with "I'm putting the kids first in this and it would be best for them". This is rubbish in my opinion. Like I said, I feel she's running away. If I ask for custody she's going to roll out all sorts of stuff, followed by me rolling out all sorts...

I'm not offended. I'm still in bits about this. The background certainly helps put a bit of perspective on things. In some respects I will drop a lot of stress, heartache and walking on eggshells myself by this divorce but I've taken my responsibilities seriously and would like to continue to...

Thanks Whitney, I think it will be the "if only's" rather that the "what if's".