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Yep, completely "normal". Some people go fine though life, communicate with coworkers and friends, but shut off the closest family members. It's all about emotions: the more emotional it is, the more likely they will shut it off, can't handle. Does it make a situation better? Not really, because...

I have a different perspective on PTSD and change of personality. I have been with my husband for 5 years before that incident happened that resulted in his PTSD. He did not have PTSD when we met and for 5 years after we met, and even for some time after the incident. I saw a gentle, caring...

It makes you feel non-emotional about your past experiences. Anything you repeat many times and live through many times loses its emotional impact. This is why it is helpful to dwell on traumatic experiences despite the difficulties.

That was not quite what happened there. First, there was no indication that he had PTSD. Second, it looked like his decision to move on. Third, she did talk to him about processing the memories, grieving, etc. she never said he had to just move on. Finally, he did go to therapy, which he did not...

No, it's not a good idea. Everyone , who tried to do this (as I did before I understood), would find that timing is very important, and during the isolation trying to establish boundaries or having serious discussions just pushes the sufferer away more. In fact, I am pretty sure in my case...

How about just letting her know (text, email, if she is not answering your calls) that you are there for her and waiting for her, but giving her some room? Not calling, not trying to have serious conversations, just giving her signs that she can come back any time? I found that pushing...

I think this is wise. I am in a similar situation, and i feel that discussing anything right now is like talking to a wall. It is all about timing. Timing can make or break it.

Good for you. I am happy you had a good communication before the hell broke loose (if it did). In my case, discussing boundary or anything is not an option now. He is just not in a state to discuss anything right now, he is in a zone where i have no entrance, and he does not see the reality...

I don't think setting boundaries works well during this stage of an episode. I think it would be wise to leave him alone and just wait to see what happens without expressing any expectations. When a person does not reply to your messages, it is not the time for setting the boundaries or any...

Eve, absolutely! We all need to work on understanding each other's perspective, and this is why we need to hear both sides. I did not mean to say that Tx should not listen to what sufferers have to say. It is extremely important for the supporters to understand what sufferers feel and think and...

Sure, absolutely, we are all interested in what sufferers feel and what they think. Their point of view is precious and irreplaceable. That is not what I meant. I just noticed that many sufferers often give their PTSD-tainted perspective and advise to everyone to leave their sufferer alone and...

I think ptsd makes them lose the ability to understand that we are happy and appreciative of time spent together. We have been very happy with my husband for seven fantastic years, but now he just keeps repeating that i need to move on. They have no hope for the future, and they are convinced...

I understand most of these episodes are caused by feeling inadequate and being unable to feel and express the feelings like the other person does in a relationship. That is what my husband said, that he just can't handle being so inadequate and being unable to feel and do what is expected from...

TX123, Many of us here are going through similar or identical situation. We all hear the same words: I am not worthy of love; I feel inadequate; I cannot be in a relationship, and I have made peace with it; you deserve better; you should move on; don't wait for me; etc. This is a typical PTSD...

Tibbles, sorry to hear all this. Don't torture yourself and don't try to find an answer in others' stories. As much as I understood reading about PTSD, it's unpredictable. Some people never come back, some go back and forth, some come back and stay, some recover, some can maintain, some never...

I think this is not a question, it is definitely good to have someone to turn to when they need it, and it may be comforting to know that someone is waiting for them if they feel better and are able to be in a relationship. The question is how much you are sacrificing your own life to provide...

I think it could be PTSD-related, because I did see my husband to turn from the best father I have ever seen (children from a previous marriage, so I have no personal interest in the matter) into someone who does not care and openly says that he does not have any feelings for his children...

From what I learned about PTSD, an ultimatum is the worst thing that can be done to a PTSD sufferer. That will definitely send him into further trouble and complicate the relationship that is already troubled.

KC, thank you for sharing. You describe it very similar to my husband's description: he also says that he feels like his body is acting independently of himself and he is not in control. I am sorry to hear how much you are suffering. I just want to share the supporter's point of view: we don't...

I am sorry to hear about your situation, and I understand it so deeply, because I am in exactly same situation with my husband right now. He moved out a month ago, and i did not speak to him for two weeks now. Said at the therapist that he would like to keep the marriage and come back when he...

It was clear to me. Mr_smith asked whether anyone returned and how much time passed between walking away and coming back. It's a simple question, I am surprised it provoked so many out-of-focus answers.

Thank you! Finally someone has clearly and directly responded to the original question, giving the description of the events and time frame! I am interested to know the same information that mr_smith wants to know: whether people return after isolating and walking away and what are typical time...

I would love to correspond with you, although I have very little experience with PTSD myself. My husband of 7 years has developed PTSD recently after a traumatic event, and he recently left home, although our marriage before his recent illness was absolutely perfect. I don't know whether I would...

I really sympathize with your situation. I understand so well what you feel. I have been married to my husband for 7 very happy years (and we are not spring chickens, we do know what we need and what we have, too), and I could have written your exact words here. I don't know what I am dealing...

I relate to what you said here. I think it is important to distinguish between our true desires and temptations. Life IS very short, and I would not want to live it so that when I looked back I would be upset and ashamed that I could not have strength and resolve to stick with my principles and...