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My simple point is that the sudden end and shut down was inconsistent with thousands of messages expressing a “love of a lifetime” from her. I have read a lot on this site. I understand isolation and hyper- vigilance are common among people who have been through trauma. The sudden shut down...

No I walked away from my partnership in a law firm after I found out years of my life had been a lie. I didn’t give up my business for a woman. I had to walk away for my own health and to be around my family who were on the other side of the word

thanks all here. goodbye. im out.

think the point has been made that this is a page for supporters. you might not. others who have but shut down by their partner with ptsd may well understand.

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And this. And hundreds more messages. Sorry who wouldn’t be absolutely destroyed after some small misunderstanding resulted in shut down <mod edit to remove direct quotes> Find me the person with a heart who would be absolutely shattered that these messages turned into silence hours after...

Hundreds and hundreds of messages like then and then complete emotional shut down. If the messages had been I’m finding things tough and need a bit of time to myself to deal with things I would understand. Not that. Just sudden and complete isolation.

Can’t imagine why I am confused I'm so sorry my love for what you have been through... My darling, we have both been through so much... <mod edit to remove direct quotes>

Was one bad day for us both. When she panicked thinking I was seeing someone else did I say our relationship is over and then shut down on her. If I did I would have left her with horrible doubts and pain. She had been through infidelity before. Couldn’t shut out a person like that as I know...

In the hour before that misunderstanding I had been sent a bunch of emails from a client I had tried to help who had lost his and his wife’s life savings from a crook. That email described how my client had tried to take his life. I had had another client also a victim of this person express...

Time for me to go and properly grieve losing the love of my life.

I’ve lost two special people in my Life over a simple misunderstanding. Hurts like hell

Really wasn’t trying to make it about me. Given a week before she was panicking I was seeing someone else I wanted to show that the little one’s birthday was important to me. For her to know that. Both of them have been through so much. We had shared a wonderful Christmas together. I...

The little one had a sleepover arranged with friends. And I wasn’t going to be there for that. I completely understood that and wouldn’t have been appropriate for me to be there. I did just want her to know her birthday was important to me. Only the week before my ex opened up about the...

Yes that was not my intent but understand how was perceived that way.

It’s absolutely destroyed me. Took an awful lot to trust. Was asked to trust promised that this wouldn’t happen. How you shut someone out of your life like is just unbelievable. PTSD or not. Cutting someone out with no proper explanation is immoral. Not just hurtful. Utterly immoral. I wish...

I understand she is hypervigilant. I know she hates any conflict. I understand she was subjected to controlling behaviour by an ex, had her trust abused by others. But I was hurt that she couldn’t even find a way to acknowledge my wish to spend a few moments with her daughter on her birthday...

And I don’t think either of our lives will be any richer for this. I think both of us will look back at some point in the future and both wish we had been able to work things thorough. no one can have a relationship without some misunderstandings or miscommunication along the way. She had...

Because this hurts i a way I simply cannot describe other than to say it will leave me scarred for good.

She loved the song start of something good by Daughtry. The line me scars don’t seem to matter anymore. ‘Cause they led me here to you. Maybe should be changed to “you led me to my scars”.

She’s a wonderful mum. Not easy for either of them but my family and I both thought her wonderful qualifies shone through in her daughter. That’s one of the hardest things to comprehend with this. I didn’t meet her daughter without being committed to my ex. I was not going to walk away...

I would have walked to the end of the earth to try to make her happy. She said she had never felt safe as she did with me. My crime was wanting to spend 5 mins with her and her daughter on her birthday. Yes I understood birthdays are not easy when the little one’s dad passed away. But shit...

Completely destroyed me emotionally though. Took an awful lot to trust

Her ex partner died a couple of years ago but she’s still dealing with financial matters. E g. Anyway I need to just let her go and hope she can find peace with her past. I knew things would not be easy for her which is why it’s even harder as I had been supportive of what she was going...

I appreciate Ronin’s comments. I’ve been through a lot in life as well and I know there are times when people can cope with no more but there was no drama in our relationship. She did say she was sick of drama in the days before our breakup but this related to stuff she had to deal with from...