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I'm really sorry that I got frustrated with a poster on your thread rather than give you a good reply. That doesn't happen for me very often. I'm sorry. You don't deserve that at all, and it has nothing at all to do with your post or you. I have a major problem with certain ideas that I feel...

No, you can block me if you don't like my opinion and don't care to hear it. If you have a different opinion, that one should suck up to assholes, I don't think I can appreciate it in this lifetime, so I won't "keep it down." I think you're a "Nice" person who doesn't stand up for what's...

Because on some level you are obsessed? You want to find someone who is in their heart the same as your father and this time, get it right and be victorious, which is going to magically take away the pain of a lifetime of not having your need to be seen for your true self and wanted for that...

That's f*cked up. Keep the bastards around to use them later. Just no, on too many levels. If you can feel what it's like to have been treated this way by "family" then you would know it would be better to die away from them then to be imprisoned in a life, still, with them. I will take a...

When I "tap into" what it might feel like to be expected to go to med school, have a high IQ, be mostly only good at academics, and have a dad in the FBI, and then be driving along during my college years and be T-boned by a drunk driver so badly that it damaged my right arm (how far must that...

Right, one month, and that impacts the data, which then makes it appear as though PTSD just melts away after a few months or years. Other data said 15 years is the average. So none of the data matches or satisfies me. One thing I read was that if you have had PTSD steadily for over 15 years...

The fight urge seems to have passed relatively quickly. But the very high libido has stayed in place. As I suspected, my spouse was tired and irritated by my wanting sex more than one time per day. Realistically, I am in the mood to go somewhere and just have sex for like 2-3 days. And I'm...

@Fadeaway I think that under a perfect storm of conditions or triggers, I could seriously lose my shit. Because it's happened in recent years, and not from waking up or during nightmares. I think I've only ever woken up and not recognized my family and screamed in terror. Never fighting. Just...

I agree with @GrayOwl that you are strong and compassionately so. I also agree with his prayers and hugs for healing, for all of those involved. Even the father who clearly has something damaged and wrong with him to behave thus. As angry as I am with him for this damaging behavior of neglect...

I've heard of combat vets with PTSD patrolling or going into fight mode and actually punching/kicking in their sleep or upon waking from nightmares. How many complex, childhood trauma/abuse survivors also have this? In my case, it gets triggered by my "Momma Bear" sense of needing to defend...

Please don't take this into black/white thinking. You didn't ask for this or want this. That is a lie that the perpetrator told you, and kids take their body's response as "agreement" when you, emotionally/personally/mentally were "horrified" by it all, which is exactly why you have PTSD from...

And keep telling your daughter that she's irreplaceable and that the whole idea is not possible. Nobody is replaceable, and everyone is unique. Build her up, tell her what is strong and good about her.

I think it makes sense to me that even if he wasn't there for her growing up like he should have been that it hurts to feel replaced on top of that. It is hard to understand why people can be so uncaring to their own kids. You can't be expected to undo all of his neglect, but your just...

I don't remember reading about inappropriate boundary issues with the therapist. That seems to be coming up more in your and others' posts now. Is there a reason for that, or did I miss something? Is that being exaggerated for revenge? Or is it something that wasn't being dealt with before?

And @Symphony I was diagnosed with PSTD in 1997, and I lived with it at a certain level doing pretty much okay some of the time and having lots of symptoms at some times of increased stress in college and within my relationship with my boyfriend, which I found most challenging. It was not until...

As I research PTSD today, I come across multiple instances of statistics that don't reflect my reality living with chronic PTSD. According to Mark Erickson, in a talk he gives as psychiatrist, here: SBNI Lunch Lecture Series - The Neurobiology of PTSD Many people experience a trauma and...

Thank you all for your thoughts and experiences with this topic. All responses are helping me think more about why I'm asking this now.

Thank you all for these thoughtful responses. I'm thinking through, and I hear a common core idea that it really depends because death is hard to accept sometimes, but we have to face it, even as children. Yet, that is much easier with loving support. I guess it was so bad for me because the...

That's understandable. Sounds to me like you put so much in and it was sudden and unexpected a loss. I'm sorry for the loss of both your girlfriend and the death of your best friend at the same time. How terrible. I wish that didn't happen. I hope you gain lots of support with the counselor...

My parents exposed me to so much that I now realize was not good for me and I could not handle, besides early physical, sexual, emotional, and spiritual abuse. Add making us watch close up recordings and narrations of surgery (on TV) while eating dinner. I often felt severe nausea. I got them...

Giving an insecure person space is sometimes mis-perceived as a form of abandonment or pre-abandonment, or as a red flag that you cannot be really trusted. It depends on the person's past and emotional baggage. Within PTSD, the person has usually been severely harmed by someone, and has very...

So much of your post sounds familiar to me, having grown up in a toxic/PTSD-causing family. It's not just one person to forgive. And that is not even possible given what even one did. There are layers of wounding to heal. Be very patient with yourself. It's a long road of healing, but there...

Yes and no, depends, but this seems to play a HUGE role in my life, whichever side of this wall I happen to be at the moment. I am paranoid about this at times of change and stress or responsibility for others. Culpability. Blame. Whipping Boy/Girl. Sure, yeah, done that growing up tons. Got...

Okay, can I say, "YES!" to your post! That kind of aggressive/unimaginative cluster ***k of human egos is upsetting I'm sure on more than one level, and not just to PTSD folks. I think that you want out of a clearly "toxic" group. That word seems appropriate to me. Even if it were not...

I see your point, @Zoogal , but there is more to it than age. Personality, relationship boundaries, and other variables, such as her technical abilities; if she couldn't get to Word without opening a minimized doc and starting a new doc, then it's less offensive. Legally, it was in plain view...