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& that’s exactly what happens @Suzetig if it is handled appropriately. My first therapist worked with me after I left a very abusive marriage. She was so kind & caring & sometimes she allowed boundaries to be crossed in order to reach me because I trusted no one. The transference became very...

I agree @joeylittle , it is different & there is definitely a difference in the level of vulnerability & potential for abuse. I think that some therapists are sometimes the same way though, they are so afraid to show compassion sometimes for fear of being sued or crossing lines that they are...

No I’m a nurse @joeylittle , l guess I was trying to make the point that there are boundaries in every profession & there has to be some judgement on the part of the professional as to when those boundaries should or shouldn’t be crossed. Sometimes it’s helpful, sometimes it might not be, but it...

Yes I guess you’re right about the smile. It does make me feel good to give others some happiness & it has always been appreciated. I do always want everyone to know that their life matters to me & that I don’t do my job just to receive a paycheck, I’m there because I want to help any way that I...

I’m sorry that you’ve been hurt. I truly am. It is unfair that not everyone is capabale of care & concern without hurting others or taking advantage of others. I’ve certainly been in plenty of situations where I’ve been taken advantage of because of my kind heart & sweet disposition. I’m just...

Yes, I do agree there is a such thing as too far, I guess that’s when it’s up to us or them to decide if more boundaries should be put into place & it sounds like the OP & the T needed to have a discussion about it since it was brought up. I do wonder how the situation turned out.

I may see things a little bit differently & it might not be so popular. As a professional who has cared for hundreds & hundreds of patients, I think people can get so caught up in trying to maintain boundaries & become so rigid & afraid of being sued that they forget to care for others from...

When I first tried to explain my PTSD diagnosis to my Dad he replied, “oh come on, give me a break there’s nothing wrong with you!” I don’t know which is worse—not acknowledging that bad things happened & still have an effect on me, or in your case, saying that there IS something wrong with you...

Lack of support...I’m on my own but there’s also a deep fear of opening myself to people. I have trouble with the whole ‘having needs’ thing & detest myself for having them. Drinking is a big one too...I’ve created bigger messes for myself by using alcohol to manage symptoms/avoid dealing with...

I have to remind myself that too @Friday. He’s his own damn person.

Thank you @crazydiamond47 ! :hug:

Thank you @Recovery4Me , that’s very comforting. :) I’ve made my own share of poor choices while parenting. I’d like to say I did the best I could, but looking back I have to say I wish I had done better. I wish I had been more emotionally available & present for him. I wish I hadn’t used...

That’s awesome!! So glad you are seeing benefits from this procedure.

Thank you for your responses. I’m hopeful that things can be different. Looks like both of us are open to change & he is receptive to therapy so far. It hasn’t been an easy road for both of us. @Recovery4Me there is truth in what you said about him pushing/testing & trying to go back to...

Oh goodness @crazydiamond47 , I’m so sorry about the situation with you & your son. Maybe in time it will get better. Thank you for sharing that with me. It helps so much to know there’s SOMEONE out there who has felt the same way. I’ve really been working hard on being gentle with myself & not...

Yes I’m seeing a therapist & he is about to start seeing someone. He’s just at a difficult age right now & I’m working through a lot of past trauma & starting to recognize reactions in myself...I don’t think I even realized how much he triggers me sometimes until recently. Hopefully I can work...

Has anyone ever had any experience with their child being a trigger? My son is a teenager now & looks just like his abusive father who we left when he was 4. There are times when things get heated & he can be verbally & has also been physically aggressive (we are getting help & addressing this...

I guess for me it just took time. I was so used to avoiding feeling ANYTHING that I just couldn’t. Yoga has helped me connect with myself in ways that I never would have imagined. That’s when the tears started to fall I guess. When I started learning how to notice & feel things & have compassion...

I’ve been seeing my T for a year & have just recently been able to really start trusting her but there’s still things I can’t talk about. She has told me that I don’t have to talk about anything I don’t want to. In fact, i don’t have to do anything i don’t want to do EVER again. She says to only...

Thanks @MyWillow , I have looked up some of his stuff & it makes so much sense! I’m a nurse. Love to know the science behind things too.

Me too @ShodokanJenn ! :(

That is so sad @ShodokanJenn i am so glad she had you to talk to when she was ready. Thank you for sharing that. Little things seem to help me be able to come back to being present & last time I was able to talk better. Did she ever say what had happened to her?

Interesting. From what I’ve read it seems to be linked to social anxiety more than trauma. Strange to me though, that the situations where I was most afraid to speak were not at school, in social settings, or with peers, but at HOME. I was a shy child, but always felt more comfortable anywhere...

My T told me that what is happening during sessions when I absolutely can’t speak (or when I do, it’s barely audible), is called selective mutism. She said she has seen it before in children, not so much in adults. I remember as a child feeling the same way with my parents...wanting to speak but...

I have her number but I’ve never texted her. We email & she usually answers immediately so it’s pretty much like texting. I am already way too attached to her & I’m afraid I might become way too dependent if I cross the line into texting. I’m sure she would welcome it because she has told me to...